If one more person tells me or my husband I am lossing to much weight I will scream!!!!!

[Aquajog]

I do and always have looked like I weight less than I do ..
My weight now is 154/155 . Still 5 lbs over my highest normal BMI.
A friend guessed my weight at 120 yesterday and said I was too thin.
I know it is because they are snow birds and have not seen me since May.
Somebody has already looked at my plate and told me to eat more!
A couple people have even asked my husband "how much more weight is she going to loss.
I just tell everybody that my doctor and dietitian are following my weight closely .
Except my ear hurting off and on the last few
days , I feel great ! More in shape than I ever remember being . Never attempted to run before and have complete four 5Ks.
Doing an excercise class 3 days a week.
An another good note is I thnk the hair loss is finally stopping ..
Are others getting the "your lossing to much weight ".
How are you addressing the issue?
Merry Christmas to all !

[Numbers]

Its none of your business what others think of you dear :-)

Who cares what they think? This gig ain't about them. Your okay, if that is the worse thing they come up with to talk about you, you are truly blessed :-)

[Ann2]

Aqua, if you're serious about making them shut up, you can turn the conversation away from your weight and talk about THEIR weight. (Hey, if they're presumptuous enough to talk about yours, you are entitled to talk about theirs.)

What about this line of questioning (of them by you):

1. It's clear that you don't know what healthy weights are.
   
2. That's not surprising, given that 70% of American adults are overweight or obese. Seventy percent!
   
3. How much do YOU weigh?
   
4. (If they don't answer, say ...) I'm guessing you weigh about XXX and you're about YY tall.
   
5. Do you know that means you are overweight [obese]?
   
6. To be a normal weight you should weigh somewhere between X and Y.
   
7. That means you need to lose Z pounds.
   
8. You would feel so much better and probably live longer if you lost your excess weight!
   
9. How do you plan to do that?
   
10. What does your doctor say about the shape you're in?
    
11. What does your husband / wife think about the shape you're in?
    
12. What do you do for exercise?
    
13. Do you think that's enough exercise for someone of your age and weight?
    
14. What are your 2015 health and fitness goals?
    
15. How can I support you in achieving those goals?

It would be interesting to know how those who are criticizing your hard-won health and fitness would respond to your inquiries.

[Numbers]

Aqua, if you're serious about making them shut up, you can turn the conversation away from your weight and talk about THEIR weight. (Hey, if they're presumptuous enough to talk about yours, you are entitled to talk about theirs.)

What about this line of questioning (of them by you):

1. It's clear that you don't know what healthy weights are.
   
2. That's not surprising, given that 70% of American adults are overweight or obese. Seventy percent!
   
3. How much do YOU weigh?
   
4. (If they don't answer, say ...) I'm guessing you weigh about XXX and you're about YY tall.
   
5. Do you know that means you are overweight [obese]?
   
6. To be a normal weight you should weigh somewhere between X and Y.
   
7. That means you need to lose Z pounds.
   
8. You would feel so much better and probably live longer if you lost your excess weight!
   
9. How do you plan to do that?
   
10. What does your doctor say about the shape you're in?
    
11. What does your husband / wife think about the shape you're in?
    
12. What do you do for exercise?
    
13. Do you think that's enough exercise for someone of your age and weight?
    
14. What are your 2015 health and fitness goals?
    
15. How can I support you in achieving those goals?

It would be interesting to know how those who are criticizing your hard-won health and fitness would respond to your inquiries.

I think Ann is right on target. The hard part is the more you lose, the more they have to come to terms with the fact they have not done the things necessary to get to a healthy weight. The more you lose, the more they face that issue.

Sure, some might be truly thinking of your best interest, but if so, they are whispering that to you, in quiet, as a friend and from these you are having quiet, empowering conversations with people who truly care about you.

The rest are just gossiping.

I may not know much about this surgery and the coming lifestyle changes, but I do know gossip and how ugly folks can be when you start breaking out and making big strides in life.

So take it as that, each one is just one more reason to do what you need to for you, and reassurance each one is one more reason to win big :-)

[Wayne2]

I don't know what makes people think its okay to say those things. For some reason, it seems ok to ask about weight loss but it's taboo to ask about weight gain. You know what you have to do and you know what's healthy for you. Just do what you know is good for you. Congratulations and keep up the good work!

[FlowerGalTX]

I'd start asking them about their sex life. "Since we're talking about personal issues. How's your sex life? Too little?"

Seriously, this is a boundary issue borne from love and likely their own insecurity about their own bodies.

Address any issues with health by "Doctor says I am the healthiest I've been in __ years and making great progress."

Address any comments about how little you eat with "Blood results are perfect. Studies show that frequent small meals work better for us. It's a quality versus quantity thing."


You have made amazing progress! Congratulations!

[Terps]

I'm getting that from several people and I'm a bit baffled. First, I honestly believe it's coming from a place of good intent. But I'm hardly skinny. I'm a size 8/10...which is thin, not skinny. My BMI is 23.8...which is high end of normal weight.

My hypothesis is they are used to us fat, so seeing us a normal weight equates to skinny in their brain. The people I'm getting comments from are very healthy themselves. It's also interesting, while I was losing people didn't pay much attention to what I was eating. Now there is a lot of attention what's on my plate.

[Terps]

And...Merry Christmas to you too!

[Aquajog]

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Thanks for all the replies .. LOL , I loved some of them !
I think it just got to me yesterday because a couple people asked me .. And my husband said somebody asked him again .i do get comments about the walk/ running but it is fun ! And my son bought me another pair of running shoes for Christmas .I was really surprised . He got me the same shoe that I am wearing but the other color ..
Last Christmas ... This Christmas...

[Damasyn]

my friend had bypass surgery some years ago. She was always a bigger girl and tall, big boned, etc.. But when I saw her at her thinnest, I was horrified. For her structure and build, she had lost too much weight in my opinion. But there was no way in hell i was gonna say that too her. LOL. She did gain about 25 lbs back and leveled out which now looks perfect.

I think when people begin to see a little more hollow cheeks and a little loose skin, it starts to freak them out

[Sarasjourney]

Hon, you look great. You don't look ill or too thin, you look healthy and not just from your weight loss but the look on your face. That glow. And as said before as long as your doctor and dietician are monitoring you and encouraging more loss, why not do it? They know more about what's healthy than those friends of yours do.

I also second Ann's questions. Too many people have a skewed vision of what's healthy or not and if they feel they need to give you the third degree about your life, they should get it right back. Not with the intent to be mean, but to show them just what they're giving you when they harp. Sometimes people don't see what they're doing until it's given right back in spades.

At any rate, you keep up the fantastic work and have yourself a Merry Christmas. Your son has the right idea, I'm going to buy myself new walking shoes next week. The ones I have are so worn out it's ridiculous.

[char602]

I absolutely adore the pic of you by the Christmas Tree!

[Ann2]

Aqua, I second others' comment -- you are NOT to skinny. You look wonderful. You look healthy. You look normal-sized.

I expect, like Terps says, they're just not used to a normal-sized you.

But I'd still ask them all those questions I thought of.

A.

[Aquajog]

Charletta , thank you ... We are from PA.. Still seems funny summer clothes while doing Christmas activities .. Pretty name but my spell check kept trying to change it !

[Terps]

Fabulous tree and fabulous YOU!!