Originally Posted by
tinman
And now...for the man's perspective.
Single men with children have some of the same challenges in dating that women do. Couple that with the idea that he may be lonely, and you get a better idea where he is coming from. He has found someone who has readily identified her flaws and he finds that refreshing. I can promise you that in the back of his mind he is thinking that if she is so ready to admit her former weight and WLS, then she has to be accepting of my drawbacks. Now, what are the drawbacks? Well, on the surface, I would say the HE perceives the fact that he is a single parent as a drawback. Remember. We are not talking about how you think or feel. We are talking about how HE thinks you are thinking and feeling.
Since you two have apparently hit it off without meeting, the chances you will hit it off after you meet are probably pretty good. It's hard to fake a good telephone conversation. All this guy wants to do is make sure you know he's interested without having met you.
So, my advice would be to try to think about the situation from his perspective. Your self esteem and outlook on life are fantastic. His might not be as good as yours. However, good attitudes and infectious personalities are contagious. I think he thinks he's found someone that will accept him for his flaws and is interested in being more interested.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Oh....go have a great time. This is the fun part of being single.
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