Please Help damned if i do and damned if i don't!!!!!!!

[delianasmummy]

I need advice please help guys.....been given funding for operation, going through all appointments and have been told i can have surgery before Christmas...................and I've just found out I'm pregnant
What to do, have the baby or the op, can't have both, if i have the baby i will lose the funding and have to apply all over again with the chance of being told no, or not have the baby and have the op......opinions please guys

[eyeofthetiger]

Have the baby! Nothing is worth more then a precious bundle of joy. You got through the approval process once you can do it again later. You'll have extra baby weight next time around so I'm sure getting approved will be a breeze. I know we look so forward to this surgery but a baby is worth waiting for surgery.

[dale]

I don't know all about your personal situation, so it is hard to give advice on such a serious question. I also am not familiar enough with kilograms to have an understanding of how overweight you are. Are you healthy? Will you be able to carry the baby to term? There are a lot of questions to ask yourself, and to ask your doctor. Since I am 59 years old, and could not possibly be in your position, my advice may be worth less than nothing. All I can tell you is, if it were me, there is no way anything would come before having a baby. Good luck to you, and let us know what is happening with you.

[Noha]

Have the baby.... you never know if God will gift you another one if you let this one go.....this too is an offerring from God. Just my opinion.

[kokochestnut]

Have the baby most definitely nothing is more precious than this gift from god and your husband of course. you will get approved next time around. congratulations and good luck

[Dana]

I would have stayed over weight to have any of my babies! They are totally worth it even if I never had surgery!

[Grace]

Having this baby will be worth any wait. Congratulations!

[ranchersdaughter]

IMHO, there's a higher power at work here. The child within you may grow up to become the one who discovers how to cure cancer, and even if not, your child will touch lives in ways you cannot imagine just by being born.

Would I exchange a babies life for stomach removal? Never. Can I help you make this decision? No. All I can do is ask that you really search your heart and soul and do what is best for you and your particular situation.

May God be with you as you deal with all of this, and may you be blessed with wisdom!

[buddyd11]

Wow what a tough situation to be in, I wish I had some advice for you but I dont know your life or where you are right now in life and if a baby fits into it at this point. That is really a question and decission you and your husband/boyfriend have to discuss and come up with and choose what ever out come is best for you both. I cant imagine the delima you are going through with this so Ill just send my prayers to you.

[mary ellen]

WOW...if you are in a good place financially, emotionally and you want a baby than have the baby. Could you live with yourself if you did away with this pregnancy??? If having the surgery is more important and you are not in the right place to have the baby then you need to make the decision for yourself.
I am keeping my opinion out of this as this is all about you and you feelings. Despite what people's beliefs are this is your decision. What do you want????

[mbd]

Tracy-

If I was you (which I am not), have your baby and go through the process after. All of us women know that we gain weight during pregnancy which is a horror show to take off especially when we are overweight to begin with.

You were able to get the funding once, you will be able to do it again. AND in the event you are denied, fight it. A child is the most beautiful thing in the world, and after your baby is born and you are healed then start over again trying to get your surgery.

Good luck with whatever decision you make. GOD Bless!

[sassysuez]

Wow....This has to be very hard for you, but only you can make the decission. I believe that for me God has blessed you with this pregnancy for a reason that you don't have the answer to,this baby could be saving your life and you don't know it at this point. All I can say is please pray about it, and wait on the answer from him. Good luck and God's Blessings.....

[Dee Leshuz]

What Mary Ellen said.

[Tammy64]

No BRAINER...have the baby. God blesses you when he knows you need it. This surgery can wait untill everything else is in order. Best Wishes to you..

[Rae]

Have the baby.