I'm considering gastric sleeve. You can go read my intro post for details. But I'm not sure I want certain people to know, of I decide to do it. I've talked to my husband.
My kids are tween/teen age and girls. I would tell them, but they always tell me how pretty I am. It's a sensitive age and I don't want to mess with them as far as food and weight and how they feel about things. I'm just over 200 pounds and they really don't view me as fat. So...I assume I'd need to tell them something, and usually I am very open with them... So likely I'd find a way to explain it.
Then, there's my parents, not local to me, and I do think I'd tell them. They'd be supportive and non-judgmental.
My inlaws are local. They are weight and food obsessed. The type that notice and comment when you gain or lose a few pounds, even if you haven't. They'll say stuff to my husband (who maybe is 20 pounds overweight) like "if you lose weight, your back won't hurt." Or "you look good. Are you watching what you eat." Once when my kids where young, I was saying that one of my twins metabolism was slower than the other it seemed, as one could eat far more than the other, and stay smaller. Well, then I said "x may be able to eat a lot and weigh 130 as an adult and y may be able to only eat a little and be 160." She replied in a harsh tone, "160. Eeew, please don't day y will be 160. That's horrible." Well, as I sat there at 190, I pretty pissed. She either was trying to hurt me or just really didn't think I was that big. Regardless, I always think of that story when I look at her, or eat a meal with her. I always feel like my in laws watch every bite I eat, thinking "ah, that's why you're so big."
My husband doesn't think I can get away with not telling them... But I think they'll either see this as the easy way out (it isn't) or possibly praise me non-stop as I lose weight (and treat me different) which will make me mad too.
Lastly... Friends and other family... No idea....
So, after that long winded explanation.... My question, who did you tell about getting your surgery, before and after? Were there some close relatives and friends you didn't tell?
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