I need help motivation maybe!

[Brenda2012]

Hi guys gals,
I'm 6 mo post op and I feel I don't have any motivation at times I regret it. Sure my health is a bit better. I've move to another state. After my divorce loosing relatives and almost loosing my house its been awful. Idk if t six mo. Is possible to almost finish a grill cheese sandwich bc I almost can or a quesadilla. I know it's bad should have that at times I make myself throw up! I hate that I can't pass the 180s mark!!! I see new people loosing more than me and can help to be jealous. I really don't know what to do. Since surgery I've lost so little and I see here people saying their slow losers when they loose 20lbs in 2-3 weeks I think I lost that in 2 freaking months ugh. Idk what else to do. I mean I even wanted to do the soup diet and can't even follow it. I was working out like a maniac and didn't even help! What should I do please help!!!!!!

[bluiz77]

It sounds like you are very depressed have you talked to a proffesional? I have to say when I look at your ticker I think to myself " holy sh*t this girl has lost about 100 pounds in just a little over a year!" I think we are always harder on our self than anyone else. Maybe start the 5day pouch test and go back the basics for awhile. You WILL get where you want to be!!!

[Bilby]

Hi Brenda .... Sorry to hear you ate feeling so down. Have you made one new friends in your new state? The weather is getting better ... Maybe find a walking partner. Try and shake up the routine. Don't compare to others, like bluiz said you've lost 100 pounds ... You are a hero

[Brenda2012]

Yep almost 100lbs but close to 60 after surgery. I think I am this new job is awesome I love it but all my family is in El Paso and I'm here in Albuquerque I miss them dearly. I met a great friend here Letizia who always encourage me even when she goes through a lot too she always have positive thoughts to share. My boys and I went to a dr for help w my divorce but I never brought up my weight I mean I feel I'm
Being selfish.

[Letizia81]

Take it little by little aww miss you too I don't have anyone to walk w my mom at times my girls and I do Zumba at times. I'll pray for both of us I need motivation too. Take care!

[Brenda2012]

Thanks letty

[LealScott]

If you continue to compare yourself to others you are destined to slit your wrists. Compared to you I should be committing Hari Kiri since I am over 6 months out and have lost under 30 pounds. Everyone is different and ask yourself, when was the last time pre surgery you lost 10 pounds a month and kept it off?

You are not selfish to not discuss the weight issue with a therapist. Your weight is possibly causing you to not be the best mom possible. At the end of the day that's what matters; being great to your kids and great to yourself.

Change is hard so be kind to yourself.

[mskitti]

Take a deep breath and think of how far you've come so far! You've done brilliantly. Everyone loses differently and everyone struggles and needs support, I think someone said it already that you sound like you are suffering from depression. You should probably see your doctor and go from there. Your doing extremely well and your being to hard on yourself. Get determined, remember why you did this and what it was like before you had surgery. And please go see your doctor and stop comparing yourself to everyone else, you'll drive yourself nuts! Xxxxxxx

[aboutime4me]

Brenda, you have been through some of the top five stressers in the human life. Give yourself a break. A divorce, a move, a major surgery, etc...all of these, even one at a time is enough to put someone on the edge, let alone three. You are doing so great and your weight loss is super! You're going to make yourself crazy if you compare yourself to others, not only in weight loss but in other areas too.
Step back, take a deep breath and focus on things OFF the scale. Concentrate on your kids, your new job, making your new life work for you and things will hopefully fall into place.
Remember we're here for you on the forum. Just keep trying to live your life each day to the best of your ability. You will get where you want to be, on and off the scale.