Worried about breast size. Any advice?

[mommyducky]

Hey guys! I have scheduled my surgery with the wonderful Dr. Ary Krau of Miami, Florida. I have gone to my pre-op and read all my pre-op instructions, guides, etc. I should be so ready for this! And I thought I was. But all of a sudden my brain is screaming "too soon!" I only went to a few consultations. Brain: "you should have gone to more!" Brain: "you did not ask enough questions! You did not do enough research! You do not know what you are getting into AHH!" Shut up brain!!!

Okay so I am going for the tummy tuck, breast lift, possibly a tiny bit of lipo (doc said I may not need it but he may do a little if he sees that it will help because he knows I am concerned about it but I am not really concerned about this now). My main concern is my breasts. As I was told by every doctor I went to, my once ginormous double Ds - which I now consider to be an empty C cup - will become a tiny A after excess skin is removed and the lift done. So my choices were to be teeny tiny or get implants. Implants scare me. I did not want implants. I was hoping to come out of this with small breasts anyway but a small A (and he showed me what that looks like; do not like it)?! I just want to fill a B cup. I told him and the nurse repeatedly that I am worried. Everyone is telling me not to worry. "Dr. Krau is very conservative. He won't make you look like a porn star if you don't want to look like a porn star," says my nurse who then advised that I check out a site called lovemylook.com to find photos of breasts that I liked and see what I wanting to look like. I have been doing this and in so doing I have been freaking out more and more! The ranges in the sizes of women who went from A cup to B cup is insane. Some of them look too tiny ad others look huge. I found a few that looked like what I think I want. My mom had implants to take her from a B to a C cup. I do not want mine that big. I am petite and being small is my goal. I am starting to doubt myself getting implants at all. I do not know who to turn to for comfort. My mom just tells me to chill; she paid $11k for the surgery so of course she would not be happy with me if I skipped town haha. But I would not do that. I want this surgery really bad. I am just scared and I am not sure if I am ready but it is too late now to turn back. I know that I can get the implants removed if I don't like them but that would require more money which I do not have and so if my parents say no then I will end up stuck with them. They probably won't say no if I'm really unhappy with it but still. Argh! Am I making too big a deal out of this? I can't eat, can't sleep, can't think lately. Any advice or thoughts on the matter? Thanks in advance guys!! <3

[ElleMarie]

First of all, yes it can be quite normal to over focus on one thing when it comes to plastics. YOU know you better than anyone else. I too did NOT want implants, the doc said that with my skin issues I would be a B and that is NOT what I wanted. I am a BIG girl still, I liked myself at a full d and wanted to end up that way. For that I needed implants. I have no regrets. You on the other hand are a smaller size lady. If you don't need your breast to "identify" who you are...get the smaller size. You owe no one an explanation. For me to be still near 200 an A or B would not look balanced, that is not your case.

Good luck making your decision!! Keep us posted and be sure to take pictures for you to compare it to. Every once in awhile since my surgery I have had a bad day and going back and seeing the difference has helped me stay mentally focused.

[jknox65]

Love the way your write. I can relate and see the internal conversation your having with your 'self!' As for breast implants, I am a guy that has been with the footballs teams fair share of woman. Well actually probably four football teams. I say that not to brag or not even proud of it any longer, but the point is this. Large breasts, small breast fake and real every guy has their own opinion. but the reality is not a single guy has said dang I just can't stand those titties in my face cause they are too small or too big. Guys or any guy of quality will appreciate you for just being you!

Personally I think more then a mouthful is a waste, but that is my preference. My wife is maybe more then 10 mouthfuls. Love her just the same......

If you have breast implants then you will have to have them again as time goes on I believe. SO I have been told, but it depends upon silicone, saline or some other newer formulations. Do you want to commit to a life of surgeries just to have nips that point up and poke your mans eyes out? In a nice way that is...

[mommyducky]

First of all, yes it can be quite normal to over focus on one thing when it comes to plastics. YOU know you better than anyone else. I too did NOT want implants, the doc said that with my skin issues I would be a B and that is NOT what I wanted. I am a BIG girl still, I liked myself at a full d and wanted to end up that way. For that I needed implants. I have no regrets. You on the other hand are a smaller size lady. If you don't need your breast to "identify" who you are...get the smaller size. You owe no one an explanation. For me to be still near 200 an A or B would not look balanced, that is not your case.

Good luck making your decision!! Keep us posted and be sure to take pictures for you to compare it to. Every once in awhile since my surgery I have had a bad day and going back and seeing the difference has helped me stay mentally focused.

Thank you! Reading your response made me smile which is much needed right now! I have so much in my head (work problems, husband/soon-to-be-ex problems, being a single mom of a toddler, etc.) so I feel like my head will explode. I am focusing on the breast thing so I don't have to think about other things, maybe! The way I see it though is that I can go smaller and be okay and whenever I am feeling like being bigger, that is what padded bras are for! I think I will be happy with a B cup. I want it small enough that I can go braless if I want hehe. Also, like I told my doctor, I have this image of myself as a small girl. I am short and unlike many people I know, I love being short. Friends always ask me why I never wear heels or platforms since I am so short and people tower over me. I prefer to wear flats because I love that I am short! And I want to be small and cute more than "sexy." It is such a great feeling when people think my daughter is my little sister or I tell them I am a teen mom, they believe it! Haha. I had my daughter at 23, not young at all! But people look at us and say "no way! You're her mom?!" I like looking young and I think that being small adds to that. I think I will end up going with a small implant to give me the look I want - small but not too small.

[marilynlw]

You are beautiful now and it doesn't really matter what size your breast are. I know with the lift you will probably need something to fill in the empty skin. So what ever you feel happy with is the most important thing. I'm sure as long as you have made your wishes known to your doctor he will make you look good. So try to relax and soon you will be able to see the finish product, the new you.

[LealScott]

Sounds like you have a great surgeon who is used to helping women make the right decision. Personally, I went from a EEE to a C when I had my reduction and at first I was appalled at how tiny they were. Now I am praying to lose weight so I can be a B. I don't think it will happen, but I wish I could easily go braless, wear cute clothes that only A cups can pull off, and not be bothered with all this stuff on top. Look at this way, you can't make a wrong decision with a great surgeon. I remember an episode of Designing Women when Mary Jo (Annie Potts) was trying to decide if she wanted implants. She wore a fake set of large breasts to a bar to a bar to get the reaction of the men. Of course they predictably only focused on her breasts. She said to her friends, "These aren't breast, these are power!"

I think when we are young and dealing with younger men they are power. (Sorry guys, but it's true.) But as we, and hopefully the guys, mature, we realize the real power is in our intelligence, wit, sense of humor, compassion, etc., not our breasts. I'd go for a lift and just let the doctor work with what you have left. But whatever you decide good luck. I am so happy you have supportive parents. And good work on the weight loss!

[mommyducky]

Love the way your write. I can relate and see the internal conversation your having with your 'self!' As for breast implants, I am a guy that has been with the footballs teams fair share of woman. Well actually probably four football teams. I say that not to brag or not even proud of it any longer, but the point is this. Large breasts, small breast fake and real every guy has their own opinion. but the reality is not a single guy has said dang I just can't stand those titties in my face cause they are too small or too big. Guys or any guy of quality will appreciate you for just being you!

Personally I think more then a mouthful is a waste, but that is my preference. My wife is maybe more then 10 mouthfuls. Love her just the same......

If you have breast implants then you will have to have them again as time goes on I believe. SO I have been told, but it depends upon silicone, saline or some other newer formulations. Do you want to commit to a life of surgeries just to have nips that point up and poke your mans eyes out? In a nice way that is...

Haha thank you! I do appreciate your comment and you also made me smile. It is also really nice to get the male perspective on this subject! Although assuming that I am doing this for a man is not accurate. I do not really have a man in my life right now and I am not so sure I want one (I am in the middle of a divorce actually). I may end up with a woman instead after its all done because I have had too much trouble with men (although my first broken heart was over a girl). I am open to finding a partner to spend my time with and hopefully one day, to be a second parent to my daughter (whose father is mostly absent); gender does not really matter to me. In any case, knowing that the implants would require multiple surgeries is part of why I was so against them to begin with. I know that they won't last forever. But I know people who have had them for many years and are very happy with them still and I also know some who decided years later to remove them and are happy without them. I probably would not be happy now with what nature has left me with. After all that I have done and am doing to achieve the look I want, I think that it implants are a necessary part of it then I must get them. What I decide to do in the future is impossible to predict. But for now I want to be young and beautiful. I want to look in the mirror and love what I see! And I am already very close to that. I am so pleased with my sleeve results and I believe that after this whole thing is over, I will be very pleased! My dream to be small and cute is finally coming true!

[mommyducky]

Sounds like you have a great surgeon who is used to helping women make the right decision. Personally, I went from a EEE to a C when I had my reduction and at first I was appalled at how tiny they were. Now I am praying to lose weight so I can be a B. I don't think it will happen, but I wish I could easily go braless, wear cute clothes that only A cups can pull off, and not be bothered with all this stuff on top. Look at this way, you can't make a wrong decision with a great surgeon.

You are beautiful now and it doesn't really matter what size your breast are. I know with the lift you will probably need something to fill in the empty skin. So what ever you feel happy with is the most important thing. I'm sure as long as you have made your wishes known to your doctor he will make you look good. So try to relax and soon you will be able to see the finish product, the new you.

Thank you guys! I do have a great surgeon and I trust that he will do what is best for me! I have made it very clear what I want to look like and I will also show him some photos on the day of surgery so he can get a better idea of what I wish to look like! I am sure everything will turn out great and I can't wait to see the new me! The finished product of over one year of work! Haha

[Beautiful Momma]

I also went back and forth on the implants/no implants for many months. I got a TT and breast lift Oct. 3. I did not want implants but also was worried I would have nothing left after excess skin was gone. I read everything I could find, looked at hundreds of befores and afters. I finally found something a plastic surgeon said that made sense and made my decision for me: If you are happy with your size when you are wearing a bra, then you would be happy with no implants. I didn't lose any size in my cup at all. I can wear the same bras, just on a tighter clasp. Before, they were hanging tube socks with a tennis ball! I'm thrilled with my girls and so is my husband!!!! Hope that helps!

[mommyducky]

I also went back and forth on the implants/no implants for many months. I got a TT and breast lift Oct. 3. I did not want implants but also was worried I would have nothing left after excess skin was gone. I read everything I could find, looked at hundreds of befores and afters. I finally found something a plastic surgeon said that made sense and made my decision for me: If you are happy with your size when you are wearing a bra, then you would be happy with no implants. I didn't lose any size in my cup at all. I can wear the same bras, just on a tighter clasp. Before, they were hanging tube socks with a tennis ball! I'm thrilled with my girls and so is my husband!!!! Hope that helps!

I love that! You exactly described what my breasts look like now! Haha. And honestly, when I wear a bra, it looks decent and I do not want bigger. But I was told my breasts would be tiny without implants (by several doctors). I am seriously having major doubts about this because I never wanted implants and I feel like I am being bullied into them. I only have one week till surgery. Maybe I need to discuss my options again and tell my surgeon that I am really not happy about the idea of implants.

[Beautiful Momma]

Don't let them bully you. I was told by all of them that I needed them and I sent pics to about 6 different docs as well as seeing one in person here. It was a plastic surgeon on a forum who said if you are happy with your size in a bra then you don't need inplants. That made my decision for me.

[mommyducky]

Don't let them bully you. I was told by all of them that I needed them and I sent pics to about 6 different docs as well as seeing one in person here. It was a plastic surgeon on a forum who said if you are happy with your size in a bra then you don't need inplants. That made my decision for me.

I will talk to my surgeon and I will tell him what you said about the bra size and see what he thinks. Any possibility of avoiding implants will be nice as I was against it from the start. But if he tells me that I will look bad without then I will probably just go with it and hope for the best. I have faith in my surgeon; he has a lot of skill and knowledge. He will know what is the best option for me once I voice my concerns.

[TeddyTexas]

I have always been small B cup regardless of my weight. I told my plastic surgeon that I did not want to have a large cup size, that i would be happy with a large B. I ended up with saline implants positioned under the muscle. I am 5 foot two, and small breasts seem to run in my family. So I am not sure what I think of my bra size at this point. They look good, my husband likes them, but I am having difficulty with buttoning some of my medium size shirts, which is what I told my surgeon that I did NOT want. What I have found most interesting about bra sizes is that if you go to a high-end store like Neiman Marcus, my cup size is a triple D. Which is not the case at all! My plastic surgeon forewarned me about this, so I wasn't surprised when she brought in that size for me to try on. If I put on my old size 38B bra my breasts are just a bit big. Would I do it again? Yes, alhough I think I would have insisted on a bit smaller size. I am still just 4 months out, so perhaps swelling is still a bit of the problem. I've been told it can take 6 months to a year (or longer) for all the swelling to subside.

I think a lot of my confusion is due to body image issues. I am 59 and no plastic surgery is going to make me look great with nice taut skin. Be thankful you are young and your skin has such great elasticity. Here is a link to a website I have found to be helpful: What Type of Breast Lift Do I Need? (photo) Doctor Answers, Tips (the first answer is from Dr. Rumalla (my doctor). The second comment sounded like this might be more what you are looking for. I had never heard of the "Ultimate Breast Lift." Anyway, hope this helps and good luck with your upcoming surgery. It will be interesting to hear what your final decision is.

[mommyducky]

I have always been small B cup regardless of my weight. I told my plastic surgeon that I did not want to have a large cup size, that i would be happy with a large B. I ended up with saline implants positioned under the muscle. I am 5 foot two, and small breasts seem to run in my family. So I am not sure what I think of my bra size at this point. They look good, my husband likes them, but I am having difficulty with buttoning some of my medium size shirts, which is what I told my surgeon that I did NOT want. What I have found most interesting about bra sizes is that if you go to a high-end store like Neiman Marcus, my cup size is a triple D. Which is not the case at all! My plastic surgeon forewarned me about this, so I wasn't surprised when she brought in that size for me to try on. If I put on my old size 38B bra my breasts are just a bit big. Would I do it again? Yes, alhough I think I would have insisted on a bit smaller size. I am still just 4 months out, so perhaps swelling is still a bit of the problem. I've been told it can take 6 months to a year (or longer) for all the swelling to subside.

I think a lot of my confusion is due to body image issues. I am 59 and no plastic surgery is going to make me look great with nice taut skin. Be thankful you are young and your skin has such great elasticity. Here is a link to a website I have found to be helpful: What Type of Breast Lift Do I Need? (photo) Doctor Answers, Tips (the first answer is from Dr. Rumalla (my doctor). The second comment sounded like this might be more what you are looking for. I had never heard of the "Ultimate Breast Lift." Anyway, hope this helps and good luck with your upcoming surgery. It will be interesting to hear what your final decision is.

Thanks for the link! I have been reading around a lot! I was concerned because since my weight loss I have gone from wearing a XXL top to a small. I do not want to go up a size. I want all my small shirts to still fit me after! I think my surgeon understands that so I believe he will do what is best! I can't wait!

[pieganjane]

My friend's daughter (who is in her twenties, tall, blonde and very slim) had double d's installed. She looks like a stripper and says they feel like cement. I think breasts should match your body. She did it for her boyfriend who is long gone, and now she has these guided missles attached to her tiny chest.