Did anyone NOT have support at the hospital?

[Geefy43]

My boyfriend just told me that he isn't going to be able to send the day with me after surgery. He will be there for my surgery but once I get out of recovery he has to go to work. Not sure how I feel about that. Since I don't know what to expect after surgery I'm not sure if I should bother to try and find someone to stay with me or if I will be alright by myself. He will be back after work.

Any advise from my "already sleeved" friends?

[shrinkinggirl]

After the surgery, when I was in recovery, I told my Mom to and Dad to go home- I felt better by myself able to process my feelings without having to talk or feel the need to "entertain" any company. Of course everyone is completely different but I just wanted to have my hospital time be for quiet healing and only worrying about myself. I had visitors all three days I was there but they just spent an hour or so with me at a time.

[Everdreamer]

You should be fine....after surgery there is not much you are going to do anyway but just rest and if you need help with getting up to use the restroom or something , you will be able to get a nurse to help you out.

[TonyaSitler]

My husband and mom were there through the whole surgery and both stayed until early evening. My husband then left to get our children to see me for a few minutes. I was ok with the short amount of time spent with him and the kids, as I needed to walk and rest, not listen to my teenagers bicker. Very good luck!

[Yureee]

You will be fine, u will need to rest and have time to think all by urself. U will be fine, trust me, I was. Good luck

[swbaird]

i got surgery in june 2011 not much goes on in first few weeks eating wee bits liquids etc puree foods were yuk but hat to do it hospital in scotland dundee was a waste of time i emailed diatision all the time never got replie. you will lose a good bit in fiirst few weeks but will slow down im now at the stage of wanting to east more but still only can have kids meals in resturantys etc and belive it or not i get pissed off eating as i dont enjoy any more i have lost 5 st since op but struggling now to keep off my toilet is my best freind now 30 min after i eat woosh out it comes . just enjoy the fact that it will come off now mat be slower than you want but it will come off. (steve)

[Munchkin]

You will be fine. The nurses will take care of you. My husband was there briefly and then he had to go home to take care of our kid. I just wanted to sleep.

[Eleanor]

Same here. My husband was there for the surgery and then went home to take care of the kids. I asked him not to stay at the hospital with me because he snored and I didn't want to hear the snoring. LOL. My mom was there the second night but I didn't need her there. I was fine getting up and going to the bathroom (had to pee a lot because of the IV). The nurses were wonderful and anytime I needed help, they would help. I even asked if I could shower the night of surgery (by myself, didn't need the help) but they said nope, not until tomorrow. The next day, I asked can I shower now? The Dr said yes and I was super happy. I showered before my husband came to visit. You can do it. It will be fine and you can definitely depend on your nurses. They are awesome.

[CuirousGeorge]

I had a friend pick me up at about 7am, took the dog to the kennel and then drive me to the hospital at about 8am om the day of my surgery, then she took off to enjoy her weekend. Intake consisted of a pee in the cup test (which I did not expect, but I guess was a requirement for any woman of child bearing age.....no immaculate conception so I was good to go) a weigh in, getting in a hospital gown, my personal items getting inventoried, and then vitals and an IV.

In pre-op when I met the anestheologist and we had a verbal review of my med history for the anesthesia I REQUESTED an anti-anxiety and got one in my IV for the 1/2 wait or so until I was on the table. I had my surgery, they called my mother to let her know I was o.k. and in recovery, at around 10:30am. I was in recovery for a LONG time as they didn't have a room for me until after their 'lunch' break and checks. I had gotten up and gone to the bathroom within an hour of being out of surgery. The recovery room was VERY LOUD and I was definitely not able to sleep (or it could have been me coming out of the drugs) I was moved to a private room at around 1:30pm where I had my cell phone and callled/texted various people, but mostly slept or walked the halls (to get rid of the surgical gas)

The nursing staff I had was very professional and checked on me frequently through that evening. I kept waking up though and every time I was awake I carted that IV poll and walked the halls. Finally at 2 am the nursing staff said I didn't get to walk anymore until morning. I had pain meds when I needed them. I had anti-nauseua medicine and was in minimal discomfort. At 10 am the next morning (about 24 hours after surgery) the surgeon visited me. I couldn't be released until I 'passed gas, or had a b.m. AND was able to keep down fluids. They brought me a bariatric protein shake (ICK! but I got about 1/2 of it down and it stayed down) So at about 1pm they started my discharge papers. I called my friend and she came to pick me up at about 2pm.

The big thing I hadn't thought about was that my friend had to come to the room to get me, as I couldn't carry my overnight bag (it was over the weight I was to carry...nothing over 5lbs, as per my surgeon, but all surgeons are different, until the 2 week checkup) We went to the Petsmart hotel to pick up my dog who had play day, kennel overnight, a bath and nails ground. I was home before 3:30pm.

I had an excellent experience all the way around and was able to contact my loved ones as soon as I was in my room. I know each person is different and their experiences to surgery would be different. This is just my story. BIG THING FOR ME was requesting that anti-anxiety from the anesthesiologist. I think it made a big difference for me. I have had a good recovery with just a bit of a struggle at the beginning of week 3 when I pushed my body too far too fast and had an issue with dehydration/ vomiting.....After surgery I was content to be ALONE, because when I don't feel well I like to be left alone. I am one of those do not touch me, look at me, let me curl up in a ball kind of girls. If you know your boyfriend will be returning after work, and have a time frame for that , it will give you a goal to get out of bed and walk a bit before he gets there.....to be sitting upright in your bed a bit. As long as you do not have any complications with surgery (which is possible with anyone as this is a major surgery) you should be fine.

[rk cant wait]

Everyone is different but, I told my husband he could leave the hospital after I got into my room if he wanted to because I knew things at work was not going good. But, thats me when I'm sick or recovering I don't want anyone there with me I'd rather be by myself as long as I could get up and fix my meals and stuff. Which I had no problem doing after surgery. The night of my surgery I was walking around the hospital with an aide walking beside me. I stayed 2 nights and had no one stay with me. My husband and kids came for a little while the day after surgery and left which was fine with because all i did was sleep, drink my meals, go to bathroom and walk. So it just depends on you how you feel. Good luck to you

[marilynlw]

You will probably be pretty groggy and wont miss him for that short time. When my daughter had her WLS I just dropped her off at the hospital and went home to take care of her son. Her surgeon called me as soon as the op was over (like he said he would) to tell me every thing went well. Then DD called 3 hrs later and told me not to bother driving in to visit because she was fine and the pain meds kept her sleepy and she probably wouldn't even know if I was there. I did go in as soon as visiting hrs started the next morning and spent the day until time for her son to get out of school.

[niamh]

I just asked my husband cause I wasn't sure when he was there and not exactly. To be honest, I don't remember all that much about the time he was with me the first evening after surgery. I remember that he was there, but mostly I was kind of drifting in and out of sleep. I was more awake in the middle of the night when he wasn't there, and then the main thing I remember is how great the nurses were - so attentive and gentle. It was nice to see him on and off, but I was fine on my own for long periods of time.

[Fran71]

My mum came with me to the hospital & left when I went down for surgery. I was on my own other than hospital staff until I went home. I was only in for 2 nights. ICU the first night & the next day I was walking around as much as possible. I never really thought about it till now. I has a great stay in hospital I had 2 private nurses, 1 for ICU & 1 for my room. Orderlies were always nipping in so I wasn't alone as such, still had my privacy.

[Its_Me]

Hmmm I haven't really thoguht about it till you brought it up. My dad is taking me to the hospital but I dont know if he is sticking around or what. I guess he most likely will cause he's dad. He will bring my son up later to see me. Otherwise, I dont know. I know when I don't feel good or whatever I prefer to be by myself and just relax and sleep and do what i'm supposed to do. I hope it works out the way you want it too.

[Sunflower]

My mother traveled with me to Mexico and stayed with me th entire time-a bed was in the hospital room for her. I wouldn't have had it any other way, but that's just me. I just feel like when I'm in pain and drugged up I want someone there with me in case the nurses are too busy to come to me right when I need them. I have also found that hospital staffs care for me better when someone is there with me. If your boyfriend can't stay then maybe someone else could go with you.