I had peeling nails even before surgery. All my life, I've had weird nails.

You also need to be taking an every day vitamin. The Chewables work best is what I have been told. When you cant eat enough to get the daily doses needed, you must get it another way. Good luck to you!

way to go . you are doing great!

When my labs were at the worth (iron, D etc) my hair did fall a lot and my nails were breaking a lot too. But never peeled. Could be vitamin deficiency or you got a fongus? May be you should see your GP just to make sure..

I've been on this site for 4 years and have never heard that one! Odd. (You must be special!!). I think the Biotin should help with hair and nails.

I take 10,000 mcg 2X a day.

Im only taking the bariatric vitamins (iron, Calcium, Multi and B) prescribed by my dr. Im in the middle of moving and my nails have completely peeled off. Its the weirdest thing ever.

Are you taking biotin? That helps with hair and nails!

I eat snacks. Not every day but if I am hungry I will eat. Sensible snacks. Protein. I know when my meal sizes get bigger I will probably not snack. But I am still eating small amounts and not breaking the calorie bank.

Great idea, to drink water right away. It gets the metabolism going It's very difficult to get to 1,000 calories.

I eat 3 meals a day, no snacks. And my meals aren't anything to write home about, size wise. I struggle to eat 2 oz of a 3 oz boneless chicken thigh or 2 tbs of cottage cheese. I drink a protein shake replacement instead of breakfast sometimes and can't eat 1 whole egg, whether it be scrambled or omelette style. But I try really hard to do it.

I don't have much hunger either, I do get hunger pangs about an hour before dinner but nothing like my previous pre-sleeved life. Then when dinner rolls around, I'm lucky to eat 2 oz of tuna on a Orowheat Sandwich thin.

I am SO far off from 1000 calories a day. If I hit 400- 500 it's shocking.

That is a great tip... drinking water as soon as you get up. Maybe as you start drinking your waters the first thing each day... the hunger will be at bay and your surgeon's assurances will be a reality for you? (Playing devils advocate) Wishing your success, happiness and continued feeling of fullness (not hunger) xo

Way to go!!

Congrats!!! That is amazing!

YAY!!

Great victory!! Congrats on all your success and hard work!

That is so amazing!!! You did it!!!! (hugs) Way to recognize the NSV and celebrate each new milestone along the way

Keep up the momentum and you can do this! One day at a time and you'll get stronger physically and emotionally along the way! Continued success!

It's the little things that are really inspirational. Congratulations!

I would always sit on the aisle anywhere I'd go (church, a show, concert, airplane) because I knew I could never sit comfortably between 2 people. It's odd, I am a regular sized person now but still love the aisle. It's my "safe place" I guess!

Good for you!! that's the way to go! I feel the same when I can walk all day, it's a victory on those years of misery for sure!! congrats!!

Yes you are!!! You are going to come out of this a shiny, brand new, strong, fierce, independent woman!!! I am proud of you and I love the determination!! Hugs!

(hugs) Prayers and positive vibes to you. It is hard to hear what does not kill us makes us stronger ...but it is true!!! I was in a deceptive marriage many, many years ago and it crushed me. I was devastated. I relied on my husband for everything (financially/emotionally). I could not believe I did not see it all coming until it hit me in the face. FLASH FORWARD... I was able to get my degree, raise my kids, remarried (17 years together). We are in a happy marriage that is on the up and up. My hubby gives me support that my ex never could. I suspect yours could not either if he was worried you would leave him because of the weight loss.

I am so sorry that you are going through all this in your life right now. Just know that YOU are stronger than you think! Life is too short to let him or anyone else steal your JOY. Take it a step at a time... but you will get through this and my wish for you is that you find happiness as I have on the other side. xo

We're totally here for you. Anytime.

You've gotten a ton of very sound advice already on this thread, and I don't have anything of use to add.

Just hang in there and focus on you, and your kids.

So sorry! Sounds like you need a good lawyer right away. Feel free to vent here anytime, sometimes writing something down just makes you feel better.

File for divorce, not separation. As soon as you do that - have lawyer put in to freeze assests, make him declare his earnings so he can't get out of paying support. Go for spousal support if you don't work, make court documents show it was agreed upon that you were a mother and homemaker - make him pay so you can go to school and get training for a job. Find out about any state programs to help you.
Get therapy too. I divorced at 18 years of marriage and with 4 kids - so if I can do it so can you. Pick a lucrative field that doesn't compromise your kids - mine was computer tech and I made good money at it. A friend of mine picked teaching, another health care, etc. Don't settle for low end and don't wait.
My ex was a drunk and a cheater.....your best revenge will be in being successful and telling him to shove it. One other thing, do not denegrate the jerk in front of the kids, be above that. Come on here to rant or meet a gf to do that. Good luck.

I'm so sorry your husband broke your heart!

Unfortunately in my line of work I see that often, and saw so many female colleagues coming back to Paris divorced it is really sad and also infuriating. In many countries (usually third world) a European man is like a walking wallet and they can't resist the temptation of young women half their age "giving them back their youth". Just disgusting.

Anyway, here are my two cents.
Focus on yourself. Try to heal the best you can. I know it's easy to say but I've seen many scenarios on the "after divorce" I can tell you my friends who got better faster are those who focused on themselves. Saw a shrink, got help. A mum who feels better about herself is always doing a better job.
Talking about job, if you are not currently working, try to find something, even part-time because be outside in the world will help you put yourself together.

I know that if I was in your shoes I would probably feel guilty about the weight and feel responsible about the cheating too, but look. It's not about the weight here. Men cheat. They just do.
It is a shame to cheat on a spouse when you have three children. But try to turn the page, don't say bad things about your husband in front of the kids (even if it's true they could resent you later for that). Try to be the better person here, I'm sure you can do it.

The sleeve will help you getting a better health too, may be in a few months you will be able to meet other people and have a different future. Your plans did change but there is still lots of happiness for you in the world, it's just a matter of finding it and looking in the right direction with a positive attitude.

Also, find a good lawyer and get the judge to make him pay what he should. But let the lawyer handle the talking. Try to stay outside and don't let your husband drag you into useless conversations. He need to pay, no excuses. I saw one of my colleague have the judge send her husband to jail for three days. After that it was a miracle but he always paid on time. I think that's a little extreme but the justice system is there to help you. Use it.

Take your time to put yourself together and get stronger, breeze, feel better.
Things will get better with time!
Take care!

You got this. And don't be afraid to lean on us. We are here for you any time you need us. And no....he is the one who was an @$$hole. You put on your boxing gloves and don't let him push you around. And as Jamma said, the best revenge will be once you are looking smoking hot and he realizes the colossal mistake he made.

I was trying to be fair with him but now he has made me so angry, I think Im turning into that b!@&$ ex wife. I have spoken with a lawyer and he signed a separation agreement but now he has broken that so there is more lawyer stuff to be done.

On happier news, I've been inspired to actually weigh myself tomorrow morning (haven't for a couple weeks) and keep myself in line! I've got to get healthy for myself. I didn't put myself thru all the pain and hassle the last 2 months to just give up!!!

I should have been visiting this forum the whole time for support. You guys are amazing!

Originally Posted by Katrina

Absolutely no regrets in taking those pictures. Keep taking them. You do whatever you need to do to motivate you and to make you feel good. And pfft! to the kids. Kids are mean. My kids have never once, not ONCE said a nice thing about me losing the weight. Not one single compliment. It kind of hurts my feelings, but then I remember that kids are assholes, and I feel better. My kids are grown, so I have no problem calling them assholes ;-)

Your watch - it's a galaxy gear S2, right? I have that same watch. I love mine. Do you enjoy yours? I sleep terribly always, but I can't even tell you how I've slept now without checking my watch first to let it tell me. I'm addicted to the damn thing. And it's mean to me too. Always yelling at me to get moving because I've sat on my butt all day.

So sorry I didnt reply earlier, Ive had some issues. It is a Gear 2. I love it! I really enjoy it telling me to get up and get moving! Altho when Im grading papers it seems to think Im walking...but thats my only complaint!

I am SO sorry to hear this! You need to take care of yourself and continue on the path you have begun, for you.... and your kids. Your health comes first. I know you must be heartbroken, angry and all the other emotions that go along with what you are experiencing, but be glad you FOUND out now. You have a whole new life to look forward too. Hugs to you.