Wedding Shower...What to do?

**Beannpay** · 08-25-2011 01:40 PM

So I have a bridal shower coming up and noone really knows about my surgery. I know this is what I want and dont want anyones opinion (negative that is). A friend of my brothers had the gastric bypass and they talk about him all the time behind his back so I know how they feel about it.

Any who...the question is what do I do? I'm aloud fruits and vegetables with my pre op diet. I'm hoping for a salad, fruit salad or maybe even green beans. I think I'm going to have to break down and tell them. There so nibby and there will be so many questions.

What do you think?

**MrsPiggy549** · 08-25-2011 01:43 PM

Eyes should be on the Bride-To-Be...If you don't behave in a self-conscience manner, nobody will be watching your plate...Besides, everybody is concerned about their diet before a wedding!

**Rae** · 08-25-2011 01:44 PM

If you are not comfortable don't tell them. Explain you are recovering from an upset stomach and not much appeals to you right now. No one is going to ask those details :-)

**k_jo35** · 08-25-2011 02:07 PM

i am 5 months out and only mh immediate family know about my surgery!! dont tell em if ya dont want to it's only your business anyway

**jane_vsg_ayla** · 08-25-2011 02:29 PM

Especially on the pre-op diet dont even worry about it. IF they know you at all they will know you have tried many diets (or you wouldnt be here now). so I dont think anyone will be surprised if you just say you are trying a new diet. Or just dont say anything - with a wedding there is plenty of stuff to talk about. Just take small bites and chew thoroughly and talk a lot (cant chew then

and you will be at the table the same amount of time as them and wont finish your food too soon, etc. Unless you call attention to it, I doubt anyone else will .

**LeslieF** · 08-25-2011 02:32 PM

The shower is about the bride. When it comes time to eat just put a small portion on your plate. Eat slowly and play with the fork pushing the food on your plate. Don't make food the focus of the shower. If you hold a glass of water with a lemon or a lime who's to say that you are not having a drink? In other words concentrate on the event and not the eating. You don't have to tell anyone about the surgery....but when you have your surgery and the weight loss becomes noticable people will ask. Be prepared.

**mymasterpiece** · 08-25-2011 02:44 PM

WE have the same surgery date !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How cool is that ??? Me ?? I would not tell them !!!!! Ive been taking in alot of protein and really trying to stick to that !! If you go to the shower and start to eat you may consume morre calories than you think !

**mymasterpiece** · 08-25-2011 02:45 PM

Only my husband and two frineds know about my surgery !! Its hard to keep it a secret but I am !!! I have 3 kids and Im not even telling them !!

**wizman** · 08-25-2011 02:58 PM

Tell em it's morning sickness! That'll give them something to whisper about!

**SkinnyOLady** · 08-25-2011 03:54 PM

Id say i was up Puking all night an afraid to eat much for fear id puke on someone... Bet no mor questions will be asked. Have fun ;0)

**Nancy Stern** · 08-25-2011 03:54 PM

I agree no one will notice and if they do they will just think you are dieting. This whole issue is one of my pet peeves if an alcoholic or drug addict goes in for treatment everyone applauds and give words of encouragement but if someone with weight issues who decides that they need help they get "comments" You should hold your head up with pride! You have a problem and have taken control and are actively taking the steps to correct it. WLS is no some easy walk in the park it is work.