Failure!

[Tina2705]

I feel like a failure. It has been 14 month since I had my surgery. In one year I lost 110 lbs (from 260 to 150 lbs). But then I kind of got out of control – all the old habits came back. I haven’t lost anything in 3 month now. I am sad, that I have no control anymore. My sleeve is still working, but I just cheat whenever I can. I eat something , wait for 30 min and eat more. I eat because I am bored or stressed – I have always been an emotional eater. So as I said old habits are back!!!
So NOW I joined weight watchers to help me get back in control. This makes me feel really bad! I had surgery and now I need weight watchers??? I just hate myself. I am so scared to gain all the weight back (because that happened all the time before surgery!).

[cbridges1962]

I just made a post very similar to yours. Wow, I hope we get control quick.

[speedracer]

I am sorry to hear that-

[kacie77]

You ladies got this!!!

Find that inner strength and fight for your life.
Your mind is being selfish and it's time to put down the fork and dust off those tennis shoes.

When you feel hungry, drink water and keep drinking it.

Eat a yogurt or string cheese!

Get the fatting foods out of your house...grab the trash can and get it out of there now!!!!!

Quote of the day "Don't complain about things you are not willing to work hard to change!"

[erinja]

Hi Tina,

Take a deep breath and look at what you've achieved. Based on your fitness pal, it seems as if you are close to your goal weight. That's such awesome progress! Yes, you've slipped, but also recognize that you're in trouble and you're trying to fight your way back. That's good!

I read a blog by OoooWeeeBaby (might be too many OE's...but you can find her blog in the blog section, I think...anyhow, she talks about a 5 day plan to get back on track. I'm very new here, but if I recall correctly, one goes back to the beginning food plan post op. It helps you reset and refocus.

I hope this helps. Sorry I don't remember the exact name of the plan - but maybe someone here longer than I knows better.

[wpage]

I too am struggling and I am not even 1 yr out yet, however I would not say that you have failed. Infact, you did the most important thing you can, you recognize your issues and you came here to vent them. I started the 5 day pouch test today (look it up on this board). It is my understanding that this will give you back the restriction you first had with surgery. Clean out your house of all of the trigger and unhealthy foods and take it one day (heck, sometimes it is even 1 hour) at a time until you are back in control. When you get bored or stressed, go for a short walk, call a friend, look up you tube diaries of other sleevers (my favorite thing to do, you fill hours doing this)...just search for Gastric Sleeve on YouTube...(a favorite of mine is Leah's VSG Journey, she is AMAZING and so inspirational and successful). You know what you need to do, now get to it

[Kimpossible318]

First and foremost, take a moment to congratulate yourself on what you have lost. 110 lbs is AWESOME, no ifs, ands, or buts about it! Now, let me ask you this? Is 150 lbs your goal weight? If so and you want to maintain it, it is possible you are sabotaging yourself? If not, how much more are you hoping to lose? Have you considered going to counseling? I think Weight Watchers is a good idea if you are concerned about the accountability of maintaining, but the principles are not the same as the VSG diet and really I think it would be best for you to go back to the basics. Maybe 3 small meals a day with two snacks. Protein, Protein, Protein. Get creative to try new things so you don't get bored. Do you like chicken salad? How about adding some buffalo wing sauce to it to give it a tasty spin. Do you like egg salad? How about using a mashed up avocado as the creamy substance instead of mayo? Instead of pasta, use spaghetti squash. There are so many tricks out there, but we all know the difficult part is to recommit. You can do this! You have taken the first step....now you just have to follow thru! I wish you all the best on this!

[FARROUTLIPS]

Well easy to say from the outside looking in and I haven't even had my surgery yet but.........the biggest thing for all of us to remember is that we are only human and we have to stop saying we hate ourselves we have to love ourselves!!!! We also must allow ourselves a treat here or there or I think we struggle and go back to our old ways . Someone once told me a rule 80/20 rule .... this means 80% of the time we must be very good to ourselves and stick to the guildlines as close as we can and 20% of the time we must allow ourselves to be human and breath . now that doesn't mean go hard core on that 20 % time it just means follow the guidelines and allow yourself something special not huge or over board but something you love and truly want if we always deprive ourselves that's not good for us either. You have come a long way and are doing wonderful so you side stepped for a bit one foot in front of the other and keep going . We didn't get this way over night and good things take some time love yourself look how well you have done so far and carry on on your journey its life long your bound to want to be human here and there .... enjoy it and then keep on going!!! BEST WISHES !!!

[Little Verbena]

I highly recommend you watch this video. I may help you get back in the right frame of mind.

Also, you are the ones that can change your habits, no one else can do this for you. If you choose to beat yourself up and be negative, you lose. Remember the saying, we are 10% what happens to us and we are 90% how we choose to react to it. If you need to, see a behavior specialist to help you.

[RoxFC]

You are not a failure! You recognize that you have to get back on track. You have made tremendous progress...don't beat yourself up. Figure out your plan of attack and get going back to good habits! I believe in you and that you can overcome this... Thank you for sharing because it keeps us aware of how this sleeve is only a tool...we have to work it properly!

[Annie830]

Darling you are far from a failure, 110lbs is nothing to be upset about. You have done great, you know what's wrong and you know what you have to do to fix it and you will. you goal is to maintain and if you can go lower. Good luck!

[healthier86]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I was proud to read that you have lost 110 pounds that is awesome! Are you in a support group for people who have had WLS surgery?

[Granna1965]

you are NOT a failure. You have done something different this time! Before you knew in the back of your mind your " triggers". Now that you can face them because you did for the first year, you can face them again! Put your mind to it and run with it! You can do this! I wish you the best of luck!

[Tina2705]

Thanks to all of you!!!
I still need to lose about 30 lbs to be at my goal weight. So I am not at the 'maintaining' stage....
I actually still make healthy choices but am consuming too much food. I am also a vegan, so the protein intake is pretty low, compared to when I was only a vegetarian. I will try the 5 day pouch thingy. I just have to look up what I can actually eat that is at least vegetarian.

[Tina2705]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I was proud to read that you have lost 110 pounds that is awesome! Are you in a support group for people who have had WLS surgery?

No I am not
I had my surgery in Mexico.