op in 8 days time feeling nervous and scared

[bear]

hello,

just can't seem to settle. i keep thinking i am making the wrong descion and that i will regret doing this op to myself when i come out the other end. Thinking i will miss meals out with friends and family, have i really tried to help myself to loose weight in the past, and am i just giving control of this weight problem to the surgeons??? only to feel like i've let myself down and not able to control the situation without this drastic measure.

i dread the fact i may just end up feeling like a freak with even more strange eating habit then i have know and that for all the reading and support i have done you never really hear about the people who regret having it done and struggle to adjust and or the ones that eventually put some of the weight back on.

i can put some of this down to pre op nerves but i'm really scared of the op and the not knowing what will the reality of my decsion feel like.

sorry for the long post any answers will be greatly appreciated

warm wishes a bear in pre op limbo X

[Cherbert]

Hi Bear
I am feeling a bit the same my surgery is in 8 days also and I start my pre op diet tomorrow.

I have been eating all my faves today in panic that I will miss them. I have taken this as the final confirmation that my problem with food needs me to do this.

You will be fine. We are bound to have doubts this close to surgery.

You are doing the right thing and on the flip side you will emerge a fitter healthier bear .

Virtual Bear Hugs coming at you xxx

[FlowerGalTX]

What you are feeling is natural and understandable. We never fear what we know; it is always the unknown and the possibilities that may bring us what we don't want.

Be positive. Think of yourself successful. Dream about how your life will be better. Focus all your energy on good thoughts and if a bad thought comes push it aside with a firm "I don't accept that." and replace it with a vision and a purpose you prefer and that is better for you.

You will still have meals out with your friends but food will no longer be at the center of those times - your friends will be. You will savor their words. You will relish the time you have with them. Your cravings will center on relationships more sustainable and less fickle than a relationship with food. Learn to let life satisfy you the way food never could.

Believe in you. I know I and others do. You can do this! Hang in there. =)

[mommyto3]

What you are feeling is natural and understandable. We never fear what we know; it is always the unknown and the possibilities that may bring us what we don't want.

Be positive. Think of yourself successful. Dream about how your life will be better. Focus all your energy on good thoughts and if a bad thought comes push it aside with a firm "I don't accept that." and replace it with a vision and a purpose you prefer and that is better for you.

You will still have meals out with your friends but food will no longer be at the center of those times - your friends will be. You will savor their words. You will relish the time you have with them. Your cravings will center on relationships more sustainable and less fickle than a relationship with food. Learn to let life satisfy you the way food never could.

Believe in you. I know I and others do. You can do this! Hang in there. =)

What a lovely response!

[jamie061]

I just had my surgery on 6/14... I did the same for a week before the surgery, stuffing things in my mouth that I thought would never go in there again....

After the second day of my pre op diet, while I was craving to bite into something, I realized that I felt great.... one week into my pre op diet, I noticed that my t-shits were getting more comfortable and that I didn't have to stretch them before i put them on.... the very next day, someone saw me and said "OMG, your clothes look like they are falling off of you!!" Well, that made my day and solidified that I was doing the right thing.

So, I am six days post surgery now... I feel WONDERFUL!!!! I can feel the weight coming off and am excited for my new life....

You are the only one that can change your ideas of food... Let your situation empower you over the food.... You can still eat your favorite foods after your diet returns to normal, but i find myself asking "Why would I want to?" I hate being fat and food is what made me fat. When i look at what food contains (by the label) I am sickened at what I used to eat.... (and surprised i am still alive!!!!)

My favorite food is Cheesesteaks.... I will eat cheesesteak one day, but it might only be two inches of one, and I am fine with that....

Keep you head up and let the positive things that are going to change in your life fuel your desire to change the grasp food has taken on you!!!!!

Best of luck to you!!!!!

[lynnhuber]

My favorite food is Cheesesteaks.... I will eat cheesesteak one day, but it might only be two inches of one, and I am fine with that....

And that's the key - That you will be happy with only 2 inches! That's what I'm hoping for - that I will be able to eat what I want but in healthy portions.

[kar]

I think that everyone struggles with the same feeling, let's face it food for many of us is our best friend. Fear not you will find that your life will be filled with activities that bring you more joy than eating did. I am astonished at how much extra time I have now that I am not eating all the time or thinking about eating. We are here for you and know that you are not alone =)