Nicole, only you can decide how bad it is or how deep this issue really runs based on experience. If it's not new than you can expect it to get worse if it doesn't get addressed, but if it's recently increased it may be that it's such a big adjustment for him too. He may fear that as you lose weight you'll decide you can do better than him, so he cuts you down as a defense mechanism. I'm not justifying it, but that at least can be addressed in some kind of counseling and you may even grow stronger together from that.
To help you feel better and put things in perspective for you, I'm in the middle of an incredibly contentious and nasty divorce with the sociopath I was married to, and the divorce was necessary before I decided to have the surgery - the surgery was just a tool to help me transform my life. She always belittled me and called me a mental weakling for needing the surgery. She sabotaged my surgery twice by refusing to attend a meeting with my psych evaluator, and then she ripped up and threw out my pre-admission papers. When I contracted MIRSA (a potentially fatal disease) she refused to pick up my Cipro prescription and told me she hoped it was fatal. My 2 daughters are in counseling, and I'm getting closer and closer to getting full custody every day but the divorce is killing me. After my success, she went and had the lapband done and has been telling everyone she lost her weight the right way - through diet and exercise.
If the problem was there to begin with, don't put up with it - you deserve better and he probably realizes that which is panicking him even more.
P.S. Good Lord woman, I can certainly see why he can't keep his hands off you Best of luck becoming a bigger loser....
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