I started this journey at 308, so I have been as excited as all get out with pretty much any weight under 250! I have been liberated, I can do so many things now after losing nearly 120# and have shared many times on here about that excitement.
I have been puzzled why I suddenly feel "fat" again and frankly a bit discouraged. Yes, the weight loss has slowed down, but i knew that would happen so it seemed strange it should bother me so much. Then it hit me why this is getting under my skin - it is for historical reasons.
I have been bouncing around 191-193 range for quite awhile. I realized that back in the mid 1980s, when I was in college, my weight hit nearly 200#. That was so outside of anything I could consider normal, I actually thought I would kill myself if I ever hit 200#. Instead, I got fit and got my weight down to the 140s which never seemed thin to me, but was at least not hugely fat. I have to say though, at the time, weighing in the 190s, I felt like the fattest woman who ever walked the earth. I can remember being ashamed to even look a store clerk in the eye, I imagined everyone was thinking how awful I looked.
Well, fast forward a few decades and I realize what an idiot I was - yeah, I am overweight, but for my frame, the 190s is heavy, but not like the half ton woman you see on TV. I wear a size 14 now and even a few 12s (thanks to vanity sizing) which is not so far outside of normal. Even if I did look like the half ton woman, that is not a good reason to beat yourself up or carry this overwhelming shame like I did in those days.
Somehow, without realizing it, I was bringing up some of the old thought patterns and feelings of shame from my youth. I actually feel fatter at 191 then I did when I weighed say 205, which is totally ridiculous as I wear a smaller size now then I did earlier in the year at 205. I KNOW I have made great progress, I KNOW I look pretty normal, I KNOW I am much fitter and can workout and stuff like other people my age. I may know it, but don't always "feel" it.
I am not sure that I have solved this, but at least knowing where that feeling and that sense of not seeing things realistically came from, I have a starting point for solving it.
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