Thinking about getting pregnant...

[newme78]

My first two are 13 months apart and they are now 4 and 5. I did not want them to be so much apart from this third baby we are considering but I don't have a choice now. I think it will still be good though.

I am struggling with the same want but I am only about 3 months post op. I think its actually a part of my depression. My husband finally got into the job he has been trying to get for years and my lo is almost 2. I dont want to do anything that would harm the baby butI feel like im loosing time. As I dont want them to be too far apart in age.

[krissyfor]

I am almost 2 months post op.....and we haven't been preventing anything. Just had my first visit from Aunt Flow (TMI, I know! sorry!) in over 8 years. It actually felt good to be "normal" for once. Now my nutritionist and doctor are both telling me I should go on birth control to prevent getting pregnant until I'm a year post op. Am I wrong to not want that? I'd love to let things happen naturally, chart my ovulation and all that good stuff. We've been trying to get pregnant for almost 10 years, birth control in the past has really messed up my already erratic cycle. I feel like I'm in a paradox: if I get pregnant, could it harm the baby? And if I start on the pill, what if this is going to be my only chance at conceiving? Sigh. I'm being torn in two different directions here, any advice?

[sassylassie]

My kids are 22 & 12. Believe me, the age difference made them even closer

[hnybun128]

Hmm, I'd love to have another baby... and my son is 16! Now if I could just find the love of my life, I'd be all set.

I wouldn't worry about the age difference. I'd just follow the doctor's recommendations. Best of luck!

[blessedahf]

Was hoping for an update on some of you who wanted to get pregnant back when this post was originally posted. Did anyone move forward with pregnancy? I'm wanting to try but wanting some success stories by ones that got pregnant a little farther out than during the first year. I'm two years out, lost all my weight and concerned about gaining it during pregnancy and not being able to lose it back. I gained 50 with my first child pre-op. Yikes! Hoping now that I'm healthy, I'll only gain the natural 20 lbs your expected to gain.

[cindy84]

i am actually thinking about the weight thing after pregnancy, i am thinking about being a surrogate and i am a year post sleeve i don't really have a concern about the pregnancy mine is about the weight after i have done all this foe me to healthy and lose the weight and i don't want to gain the weight all over again and not be able to lose it. i know it sounds bad and selfish.

[blessedahf]

i am actually thinking about the weight thing after pregnancy, i am thinking about being a surrogate and i am a year post sleeve i don't really have a concern about the pregnancy mine is about the weight after i have done all this foe me to healthy and lose the weight and i don't want to gain the weight all over again and not be able to lose it. i know it sounds bad and selfish.

Oh I totally am right there with ya. My #1 concern is gaining the weight. But I'm hoping I can be motivated to remember that pregnancy cravings are all in yiur head. And to remember that I worked hard and paid a lot of money to get where I'm at. It kinda is selfish but I think we have every right to feel that way. Ya know?