4 months out and Incredibly FRUSTRATED, and taking it out on the very wrong people and places

[SFsleeve]

Im 4 months out. I am stalling and gaining weight so much that I cant even sleep anymore from worry. Ive stalled at between 180-183 for 5 weeks now, and its driving me crazy. I know im am eating anymore then I do normally because my stomach has stretched a bit, and i actually went down to 180 and then back to 183. Im yelling at my husband, "binging" (to me that eating until im very full) and being destructive to myself in general. Please tell me everyone goes through this and it ends, and that my surgery hasnt just given up on me. I will admit, i have not started to exercise.

[Gwyn]

I think you need to make an appointment with your nutritionist. Are you tracking your calories, protein, and fluids? Are you taking your vitamins? Are you exercising? Everyone stalls; it's perfectly normal. I tend to have a small gain just before a stall-something along hte lines of 3-4 pounds, but have had as big as a 7 pound gain. It went away when the stall ended. The emotional part is fairly normal too, but you have to get control of yourself. You are the only one who can change things and make them better. If you find yourself getting irritated and irrational, exercise is probably your best cure.

Good luck!

[GinaK]

We started about the same weight and have about the same surgery date and I'm right there with you... stuck between 178 and 181 for quite some time now. I haven't been eating according to plan (too many carbs) and haven't been exercising, BUT I really haven't gained weight as I would have in my pre-sleeve days and I continue to lose inches so I'm trying not to beat myself up. Had an extremely stressful couple of months just after my surgery (not sleeve related) and then have had a crazy busy summer. With the kiddo going back to school in a couple of weeks, I plan to get back on track. So, try not to beat yourself up too much, but stop that destructive behavious cuz it gets you no where!

[soontobethin]

I've been the same for a month also and a friend of mine told me he called the doctor because he also was stuck. Without even asking what he had been doing they said you need to exercise and drink your water. As soon as I drank my water for 2 days and just walked in the neighborhood, I went down 4 lbs. Water is the answer I'm sure of it!!

[aboutime4me]

Hey there, I know your frustration but you need to get hold of your emotions and stop the binge eating, or eating as much as you are. You know what you're doing...again, the sleeve is only a tool unless we get our emotions and head in the game properly. Also, get your body up and moving, doing some kind of physical activity. I will never be an athlete and don't aspire to that, but for me, walking is the exercise of choice. Get a video such as Walk Away the Pounds and do it in your home if you want. No one will see you there and you can do it whenever you want. You'd be surprised at how quickly you can do a 1 mile, 2 mile or even a 3 mile walk at a time. Good luck and keep us posted.

[irishmadness]

Please tell me everyone goes through this and it ends, and that my surgery hasnt just given up on me. I will admit, i have not started to exercise.

The number 1 thing most surgeons promote is exercise and walking daily. You openly admit you have not been exercising. You say that you have been eating till very full and binge eating. So being direct with you: Are you surprised by the result of being non compliant? The sleeve is a restrictive procedure and all the same rules of weight loss prior to the operation now apply.

I see so many people on here refer to stalls. Some of them are really doing their best and have some kind of metabolic imbalance causing a temporary stop loss on the scale. But in many cases it's people who simply don't understand that this is not a magic operation. They don't exercise and don't do the math on weight loss. It has always come down to numbers for us. If we don't burn 3,500 calories after all things are counted then don't expect to lose a pound. If you don't know about BMR (Basal Metabolic Rate) and the effects of Ketosis on it you need to.

So it's normal for weight loss to slow as your body adjusts and becomes more efficient and burns less calories. But it's not normal to expect a loss where the math doesn't add up. All of that aside I do feel for your struggle. I struggle to stay on point each and every day. But someone needs to be honest and direct with you. If you want this operation to be a success you need to use the tool as prescribed. Talk to your doctor and nut and get things back on course.

[Itstimeforme]

I have to agree with the others exersice is the number one keys. Have you tried to go back to the basics and do a week of liquid diet? It never hurts to try. Best of luck with your stall.