I'm going to be brave and broach this topic.
I have spent most of my life loving food and sex pretty much equally....
Meaning, I couldn't live without either. I've been accused of being a sex addict by a former partner. I have long lived on the extremely kinky side of the fence.
But... very, very sadly... since surgery I don't have any sex drive to speak of.
Mind you, hubby is well taken care of, a couple times a week at least (we're in our 50s, he feels lucky).... but sex
doesn't pop into my head essentially ever any more. I went from a woman
who used to joke I needed it 3 times a day with a bedtime snack to more
like - oh, okay, yeah we should do that, shouldn't we?
Once it's happening it's not like it isn't good, but I have to wonder where the heck my
drive went.
I found a few articles relating loss of ghrelin to loss of sex drive and stating that once the ghrelin starts to come back after a while, the sex drive does too. I hate to hope for my ghrelin to come back but maybe both appetites are joined together in the brain for some of us?
This is really hard but if there is anyone else suffering this, I won't ask you to post it here but I'd like to have someone to bounce this off of if you can pm me and I'll share an email addy.
I'm concerned because at this point if it gets any worse my marriage could suffer.
I am checking into an arm/breast lift, thinking it might help (tummy tuck is impossible, I have too much scar tissue from childhood surgeries, they won't touch me).
I'd really appreciate the support. I just don't recognize myself anymore in this area.
I felt FAR sexier at 335 than I do now. That makes me so unbearably sad.
Thanks for listening and (preemptively) being kind in your responses.
I'll be quite busy here the next 36 hrs so please don't think this was a hit and run post if I don't answer quickly.. holiday here in the states and all.....
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