Deflated

**Mbenson5** · 06-27-2012 12:07 PM

I know that I'm going to be one of those slow losers, but I did really good yesterday- exercised, ate 400 calories, kept moving, etc. This morning I got on the scales and it looked like I had lost 5 lbs. I was so happy and went downstairs and made the mistake of asking my husband if I looked smaller. Of course he cant lie and make me feel better. He was like, well, not really yet- its too early. He had his surgery in April and the weight has literally fallen off of him. He just left for work and all I want to do is crawl in bed and sleep. There were things I wanted to get done today but I literally feel deflated. I know I shouldn't let it bother me but still...

**Rebecca50** · 06-27-2012 12:13 PM

You need to remember if someone see's you everyday it's harder to notice a difference right away. Give it time and hang in there.

**aclabombard13** · 06-27-2012 12:37 PM

Don't let it get you down! I'm sure if you saw somebody you haven't seen in at least a week, they would notice without you even asking. Men tend to forget to use their brain to mouth filter sometimes. You are doing great! In the next couple weeks he will be sure to tell you how much smaller you are, in fact, my husband just told me this morning

It takes time. Just keep moving today and get your protein and fluids so your scale will keep moving!

**Munchkin** · 06-27-2012 12:52 PM

To be honest with you, people didn't notice I loose weight until I have lost 50lbs or more. And also I finally bought new clothes.

You can't let other people or the scale rule your life. You know you are getting healthier by eating health and eating less. You will have a great success.

**aboutime4me** · 06-27-2012 01:36 PM

Hey there, crawl into bed if you want, get some rest. You're still so newly out of surgery yet. Part of this whole thing is the mental part for us. We want to see numbers going down on the scale, clothes hanging on our body that used to be tight, etc. When I began this journey I knew I wouldn't really see a difference in my body, looking smaller to others until I lost about 30 lbs and I was right. I was mentally prepared. Now, people are saying they are really seeing the weight loss. No matter how many pounds it takes, just know you're doing it and they are coming off. I know it's small consolation when you're hopes are so high. Keep on plugging along and don't let anyone or anything get you down. You're tougher than all that! Smile, look at yourself in the mirror and say YES...I am losing weight and I look better than the day before! Good luck and be easy on yourself.

**xxtac66** · 06-27-2012 01:50 PM

Oh Melissa...you poor thing! I understand your excitement about the 5 lbs. You should wear baggy clothes around the house to camouflage, and when you get dressed up to go somewhere you can wear more fitted clothes and then he will REALLY notice! lol Sometimes I just crawl in bed because I can. It is good to get some little happy naps in and let your body heal. No matter how good you feel, you still are healing. I think you are doing terrific and I love that you are helping to reshape your family's nutritional habits. You are going to be a great success story!

**Mbenson5** · 06-27-2012 02:14 PM

You guys are so wonderful! I really needed that salve to my spirit! I made myself take the kids to the plant nursery to get stuff for the garden and I do feel better. You are right about the brain to mouth thing! Lol I was so tempted to eat out because I was annoyed. Boy was that an eye opener for me. YES! I do eat my anger! Wow, learning to do something different with it is going to take some work! The mental thing is going to be a work in progress for me. Thankfully, I came home and heated up the chili we have been working on for a few days. Lots of protein and little sugar or fat. Win! Lol

**aclabombard13** · 06-27-2012 02:22 PM

If you want to "eat out".... last week I went to Taco Bell and got Pinto Beans with Cheese... DELISH!!!! Was a nice treat! LOL Glad you're feeling better

**tybeeanna** · 06-27-2012 02:33 PM

Glad you are doing something with that anger

Something I read was the paper towel analogy take 5 sheets off a full roll it still looks the same Now take 5 sheets off a almost empty roll, see the difference ((hugs)) to you.

**BBARB** · 06-27-2012 03:46 PM

Oh sweetie, do not be down. I am the first that does not notice it in my self and I just put a string a around my weist and see it getting it looser over time.
that is my mirror. smetime scale does not agree but the string does or viceversa.
I also noticed that I am more emtional. especially closer to the surgery date.
Anyway if you need some time in the bed, then do it. but dont feel down you are melting and we know it

**dachsie** · 06-27-2012 08:55 PM

Hang in there - remember you are barely 2 weeks out from surgery and you are probably still holding someof the fluids in. You will be able to tell when your clothes start getting baggy on you. Dont worry about how you are doing - just do what you are supposed to and it will happen for you.

When i went for my first post-op I had actually gained weight. I knew that was impossible as I had not had any food so i knew that the fluids were still in my system. The next week I lost and then they have been melting off. I lost 18 lbs in one week. That was some of the fluids. I am hoping that I am going to show more loss tomorrow but i wont be upset if i dont because i know i am doing the right things.