My husband

[louisianagirl55]

Ok let me start by saying I have the most wonderful husband in the world. We have been best friends since the 5th grade but that being said.... I'm feeling frustrated this morning.
He has been so supportive since my surgery and had some weight to shed too. i have out weighed him for a few years now by about 25 or more lbs. He has always battled his weight too.
So after my surgery we started to do all this together... he is not eating quiet as small as me obviously but has cut out stuff like sweets, soda for the most part and has increased his protein. vitamins and the whole nine yards.... ok so here is my delima I CANT CATCH UP WITH HIM!!!! He is dropping weight and I want to weigh less them him. You know be smaller than my husband!!!! He is now 219 and Im 241 ugh.... and I had SURGERY. I've lost more in lbs then him but still cant catch him. I realize he was less than me to start with and he is not bragging at all... I'm just pouting I suppose. Please don't fuss me too hard for this vent, but grrrr I want him to hold me in his arms, or sit on his lap and be less then him. I'll make it some day I suppose but today is seems as if he is always gonna be less than me. Feeling fluffier than normal!!!!!
P.S. I am happy for his weight loss, he needed to lose the weight, and I want him healthy he is my BFF. Don't want to take anything away from him... just venting to my fellow GSV neighbors.

[brianamato]

I know its hard just to focus on your own weight loss when your spouse is loosing so much more than you.. my wife is 115lbs since we meet and drives me crazy... Anyway.. You know you can not compete with him, men loose weight faster then women anyway.. Stay on your own path - because he will gain the weight back anyway

[Jewel]

LOL @ Brian! "he will gain it back anyway" .. hahaha

Hunny, Brian's right.. this isn't a race, it's a marathon! You just had surgery in February - it's going to take a little time to lose the weight that you've been carrying around for years. It did't get there overnight, it won't come off overnight. Nor do you want it to.. sharpeis are cute, but you don't want to look like one, do you? lol

I am 10 lbs away from losing 100 in 7 mos. I'm not even trying.. I'm actually starting to think that I don't want to lose weight anymore, but my body doesn't agree ~ so I'm just along for the ride! You have NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. Celebrate his success and enjoy your hot hubby until you get to the point where you've squashed his numbers with your own. (and you WILL!) There are alot of frustrated posts that pop up here about the time it takes to lose the weight, and I was probably one of the people that posted the same thing a few months ago... but believe me.. there's no way that you won't catch up, and then some.
Enjoy your daily changes and learning all about the beautiful person that was buried under that weight. I have a hunch that he will enjoy you alot more too

Take care!

[CajunFish]

I'm with Brian on this one, we do lose faster sometimes. When I went on my liquid diet I lost 30 pounds in two weeks. My wife was so mad because she really has to work hard to get it off. She is in the process now to see if she can have the surgery too.

[robin34]

I had a doctor's appointment last week and he said..."this is reality....you are a female and females lose weight slower than males. We have more muscle mass and I know it sucks but that's just the way it is." We can never compete with their weight loss. I live in a house with all skinny people!!!! It's sickening! Wish I had a partner at home to keep me in line. My husband can say what he wants but if he's sitting there eating a bowl of icecream or big mac....it just pisses you off and it don't mean quite the same than if it's someone that battles like you do! So, I guess that's why we have these forums!

[butterflybecca]

OMG I know what you mean! It's okay to feel that way because YES, us gals are supposed to be the dainty little ones while our hubby's are hefty-duty-cinch-sacks!! I actually weighed the same as him pre-surgery and now am so happy that he's at 220 while I'm at 163!
It WILL happen for you in time. When it does, you will feel light as a feather no matter what you actually weigh. I promise it will happen because YOU had the surgery. Men just lose faster, darn them.
Remember, this is the safe place to vent our frustrations. Hang in there and GREAT WORK!

[mac]

My husband just gave up soda and lost 15lbs in a week. He's lost 23 total since I started my weightloss "journey". It's crazy! Hang in there - your loss will be long term!

[ladydi]

Girl you will totally get there .

[coloredgem23]

well yeah i could see where that is frustrating..but its kinda cute too. He will plateau, you will continue...and yeah soon you will be the lil wifey you always wanted to be so keep your head up...

[louisianagirl55]

Thank you all so much for the words of encouragement!! I needed it this morning!!

[aurora4124]

I know how that goes too!! When I started looking into the surgery, my husband was 240, I was 328...now that I'm in the 250's and can almost wear his jeans he's at the gym & losing weight. He's only lost about 5 pounds so I'll catch him, but I was irritated with him for making it harder! Dont' worry, we'll both get there & it will be wonderful! I have to add, he's never had a problem with my weight, I think it's more that I've inspired him to lose since I've done so well. He's jealous I think.

[GSBarbee]

My hubby can lose 20 lbs just by saying he is going to eat less...sickening really...LOL...lucky he loves me no matter what size I am

[Jersey John]

Damn us men and our cursed testosterone! ;p

Your concern is understood, and the advice already given is solid. You'll catch him and pass him and stay thinner eventually. For now be proud of having such a great relationship!!

[louisianagirl55]

Damn us men and our cursed testosterone! ;p

Your concern is understood, and the advice already given is solid. You'll catch him and pass him and stay thinner eventually. For now be proud of having such a great relationship!!

Thanks I am so very thankful he is totally the best!! Thanks for the encouragement John!!

[louisianagirl55]

OMG I know what you mean! It's okay to feel that way because YES, us gals are supposed to be the dainty little ones while our hubby's are hefty-duty-cinch-sacks!! I actually weighed the same as him pre-surgery and now am so happy that he's at 220 while I'm at 163!
It WILL happen for you in time. When it does, you will feel light as a feather no matter what you actually weigh. I promise it will happen because YOU had the surgery. Men just lose faster, darn them.

Remember, this is the safe place to vent our frustrations. Hang in there and GREAT WORK!

Thanks Becca.
the encouragement is so very appreciated!! And I cant wait to be his little wifey! Lol.