Off Topic Valentine's Day gripe

[EarthAngel71]

nice one Theresa - that could be a new thread -

[stephintexas]

One of our guy friends told me to take him to see the most popular chick flick out during his birthday next year and make it a surprise! lol

[tiz4tggr]

I don't think you're being a B** at all. Sounds like he wasn't thinking of you or your needs. And out of curiosity, why does he have your credit card? I'm tired of making excuses for men, that they just " don't get it ". Sorry, I'm not quite as forgiving as other people who have responded. I'd be seriously P/Od if my hubby did that to me.

[carolynodien]

Normally, I would be of the camp that says "Give him a break, he's trying...but he's a GUY and doesn't get it". HOWEVER, I know from your past posts that you and he have been on the rocks for a while and this almost sounds like a very passive/aggressive move on his part. The fact that you have to pay for it is adding insult to injury. I like the idea of taking him to a chick flick on his birthday! Hope everything turns out fine.

[Evie Sleevie]

I don't think you're being a B** at all. Sounds like he wasn't thinking of you or your needs. And out of curiosity, why does he have your credit card? I'm tired of making excuses for men, that they just " don't get it ". Sorry, I'm not quite as forgiving as other people who have responded. I'd be seriously P/Od if my hubby did that to me.

Um, yeah, I'm with tiz4tggr. I'd be pissed. He's being incredibly insensitive. I LOVE the idea of a chick flick on his birthday. I know some guys can be clueless, but come on! You just had weight loss surgery, for Pete's sake! To spend that much on a DINNER is ridiculous--especially since you will be the one ending up paying for it! Smoke would be coming out of my ears at this dinner table tonight. Can he take his mother or sister instead? And you go get a pedicure or something! How on earth can he think he "nailed it"? Come on...

[coloredgem23]

Id have my feelings hurt too. Remember you had this surgery for a reason, and when you fit in to that smaller size reason looking all hot and sexy, you will know that Steak and beer wasnt worth it anyway!

[stephintexas]

He gives me his check and I pay the bills and tell him what's left over. He asked me if he had money for V day. I told him yes. He told me he needed a credit card (he doesn't have one) so I gave him one. I expected about 50$. Again, he's NEVER done this before so I was sort of nervous. I was expecting an actual gift, even something cheesy. My irritation is mainly in the fact that he spent SO much on a dinner I cannot pariticpate in.

I get sea sick really bad too. Plus it's cold here and rainy. I'm just being a big baby about this but it's not something I even want to do. I'd have preferred a 65$ dozen roses or a card.

[hourglassSmith]

Men are insensitive (honestly I'd be ticked a lil too) but I'm sure he was just trying to give you a romantic evening...

My husband went out last night and spent the last $60 in our checking account, which I was saving for a Valentine's Day dinner TONIGHT. We don't get paid til Wednesday, so I was really trying to budget. I was seeing red this morning when I looked in our account, and not b/c everyone is dressed for Valentine's Day.

so at least you have a nicer story than I do.

[Dee Leshuz]

The LAST $60? Oh, I'd kill 'em. Lots o' red all over the place, St. Valentine's Day Massacre all over again


(ETA St. to reflect the factual event: http://history1900s.about.com/od/1920s/p/valentines.htm)

[ShrinkingViolet]

Typical man. Sounds like he's going to have to sit and eat and listen to you talk to your heart's content, since you have to keep yourself busy and you can't eat! Get a to-go box and a big non-alcoholic beverage and sip and talk-talk-talk while he eats-eats-eats. What's he gonna do? ;p

[tiz4tggr]

Typical man. Sounds like he's going to have to sit and eat and listen to you talk to your heart's content, since you have to keep yourself busy and you can't eat! Get a to-go box and a big non-alcoholic beverage and sip and talk-talk-talk while he eats-eats-eats. What's he gonna do? ;p

I like the way you think!

[Theresa]

Typical man. Sounds like he's going to have to sit and eat and listen to you talk to your heart's content, since you have to keep yourself busy and you can't eat! Get a to-go box and a big non-alcoholic beverage and sip and talk-talk-talk while he eats-eats-eats. What's he gonna do? ;p

HAHAHAHAAA!!!! That should be enough to torture ANY man!!!

[angela zinck]

I'd be upset too!! But you have to remember it's only been 5 weeks, just like you have to work on changing your habbits so does he. He may "know" what you can or can't eat (you are married to a man remember, they say "yes" and "ok" nod thier heads and go threw the montions but.....) mine does the same thing but if I was to quiz him he wouldn't have a clue!! You say he only had himself in mind maybe that's how he feels about you going threw this procedure. It doesn't make it right but if you look at the big picture, at least he's taking the first steps to planning for V-day. I know you said you haven't said anything to him which I think is smart because if you do it will be an excuse for him to never try to plan ANYTHING again!! Men are like schoulded childern like that.

[headsntails]

as Alicia Keys so eloquently put... "Don't be a prisoner of (unspoken) words" or POW. if you don't say anything, he won't get any new perspective. no one can read our minds.. something bothers you or pleases you.. use words.

[stephintexas]

I talked to him at lunch. He said he wasn't thinking. He said if I don't want to go, then I can pick a movie or a restaurant or something else. He claims he had flowers waiting on the boat. He used a moment of clarity to not yell or be a big jerk. My doctor told me that I can eat the salad, I can try the flounder option, I dunno. I guess I need to buy my own presents like I've been doing! lol