You haven't even been out a month yet. I am bummed for you not feeling well and you WILL get back to the routine you started. Ya' know these arbitrary numbers that folks tell you to walk and excersize each day aren't always met the first week out. Your body is still healing and now another maladie comes along. You'll get there and don't worry if you don't get the I lost more than everyone else award this month. You will lose at your own pace and if the nurse can't handle it, too bad, Your Mom on the other hand I have no comment. I don't want her after me you know! Good Luck!

Originally Posted by 4linton

You haven't even been out a month yet. I am bummed for you not feeling well and you WILL get back to the routine you started. Ya' know these arbitrary numbers that folks tell you to walk and excersize each day aren't always met the first week out. Your body is still healing and now another maladie comes along. You'll get there and don't worry if you don't get the I lost more than everyone else award this month. You will lose at your own pace and if the nurse can't handle it, too bad, Your Mom on the other hand I have no comment. I don't want her after me you know! Good Luck!

thanks so much! I appreciate your words of encouragement!

My mom lived with me. God bless, she meant well but an she could send me thru the roof. You know your body, and you talked to your nurse....you'll be fine. Hang in there! I know you're ticked but you are doing great!

Originally Posted by goblue121

My mom lived with me. God bless, she meant well but an she could send me thru the roof. You know your body, and you talked to your nurse....you'll be fine. Hang in there! I know you're ticked but you are doing great!

Thanks so much!

MOMS!!!!
Just keep replying, "OK". And do what you can.

Wow, did I need to read this today! Thanks for sharing and I appreciate your feelings of being annoyed. Keep moving forward and try to ignore the comments. In her mind, she's being helpful and probably doesn't understand the irritation it causes. I agree with "Msvetrn" to just keep replying "Ok".
Best of luck to you!
Mary

I talked to her after I wrote this post, we stay up way to late sometimes lol!

I told her that just because the nurse was capable of doing all that exercise didn't mean I was. She said that I can do it. I told her yes I can in the future, but not at this point and that she was making me feel like I wasn't pushing myself hard enough even though I'm exhausted. That she was not helping me she was making it worse.

She apologized and said she sorry she didn't mean to do that she just worries about the extra skin and wants to make sure I do everything I can to prevent it. I told her I know about the extra skin and I plan on working on it when I'm capable, but she had to let me build up to that point. She said okay and that she would let me do what I thought was best for me. THANK GOODNESS!!

I really felt better after that. Plus with all my mixed up hormones after the surgery I cried a little and so that helped make my point lol.

Glad you spoke to Mom! Nothing like confronting the problem She's worried about her girl! Just continue on your path and focus on you! Good Luck!

YOUR MOTHER SEE YOU AS BEING YOUNG, THAT A GOOD THING. BECAUSE IT TOOK ME A FEW DAY TO WANT TO DO SOMETHING. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. I AM OVER IN MY 40ISH. I WANT TO BETTER QUICKER. HOW SAD IS THAT. IT GOOD THAT YOU HAVE SUPPORT, BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE DON'T THEY GO THROUGH SURGERY AND WEIGHT LOST, THIS ALL BY THEMSELVES. THEY HAVE NO ONE WHO WANT TO HELP THEM. SO BE GLAD YOU HAVE YOUR MOTHER, MY MOTHER DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY I HAD THE SURGERY. I WANT A BETTER ME: NOT TAKING MEDS ALL THE TIME. AND SO DO YOU SO KEEP YOUR HEAD UP BABE: ;0 WE ARE HERE FOR YOU.

As a mother of three grown daughters, two of which have had to have "a talk' with me, I can appreciate what you are saying. So glad you talked to your mom. Sometimes we are too big for our britches, but we honestly mean well. I had to do the same with my alpha female mother. It's pretty normal for strong women to be bossy. We definitely have to be given boundaries and it's too bad you had to do it when you are feeling so bad. Also you will have to give reminders occasionally b/c we do not give up territory easily. lol But what this has shown is you are a Strong woman because you talked on your mother even when you felt so bad. Good for you!!

Originally Posted by BABYGIRL44

YOUR MOTHER SEE YOU AS BEING YOUNG, THAT A GOOD THING. BECAUSE IT TOOK ME A FEW DAY TO WANT TO DO SOMETHING. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. I AM OVER IN MY 40ISH. I WANT TO BETTER QUICKER. HOW SAD IS THAT. IT GOOD THAT YOU HAVE SUPPORT, BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE DON'T THEY GO THROUGH SURGERY AND WEIGHT LOST, THIS ALL BY THEMSELVES. THEY HAVE NO ONE WHO WANT TO HELP THEM. SO BE GLAD YOU HAVE YOUR MOTHER, MY MOTHER DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY I HAD THE SURGERY. I WANT A BETTER ME: NOT TAKING MEDS ALL THE TIME. AND SO DO YOU SO KEEP YOUR HEAD UP BABE: ;0 WE ARE HERE FOR YOU.

Thanks sooo very much!

Originally Posted by mila

As a mother of three grown daughters, two of which have had to have "a talk' with me, I can appreciate what you are saying. So glad you talked to your mom. Sometimes we are too big for our britches, but we honestly mean well. I had to do the same with my alpha female mother. It's pretty normal for strong women to be bossy. We definitely have to be given boundaries and it's too bad you had to do it when you are feeling so bad. Also you will have to give reminders occasionally b/c we do not give up territory easily. lol But what this has shown is you are a Strong woman because you talked on your mother even when you felt so bad. Good for you!!

Thanks for your words of encouragement!