Life
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, 02-19-2014 at 02:37 PM (1480 Views)
So this week I am learning some painful life lessons. The biggest one is not to forget who YOU are as a person. For the past 22 years I have simply been someone's wife or mom. I have wrapped my entire world around my husband and children to the point that when they are gone I am a bit lost. I mean I keep busy and do things, but tend to be lonely. I still have a 17yr old at home, but she goes and does her activities and I sure don't want to make her a prisoner because I want company. Honestly a lot of the time I am ok with being alone, but sometimes it is a bit much. My husband has traveled for work for years and can be gone for weeks at a time.
This weekend part of my life became unraveled. To my surprise my hubby of 16 years has decided to quit on our marriage and he is leaving me. No he is not cheating...I have checked at least as far as I can tell. He says he is not and at this point until I find put otherwise I believe him. His 1st wife cheated on him, and we always agreed that we would get out before either of us took that route. He says another woman is not anything he is interested in right now.
He says that he has spent his entire adult life married. He never partied as a kid, never went to the club, never did any of the right of passage things most young people do do. I did, but that was long before we ever met. He is 46 years old, and he says that if he doesn't do some things now he never will. Since he doesn't drink or party and said he is not interested in another woman I am not sure what "things" he wants to do. He told me he loves me, but he doesn't know if he is in love with me...... My feelings on that are "well hell, I haven't always been in love with your ass either but I stuck around".
So now I am going to be on a journey to discover me. I want my marriage to survive this, but I am not sure HE will let that happen. If it doesn't then I need to know ME, and what makes me happy in life.
So friends don't forget about yourself. Yes love completely, but still know who you are and what you love to do. We never know when one day we may find ourselves alone...for whatever the reason, and we need to keep on living (even when you feel like dying).