This may be entirely the wrong place for this, but my husband has suffered, off and on, from depression his whole life. He has sunk into a severe depression since I came home from the hospital. That night, in fact, he went outside and started arguing with a neighbor, despite my begging him no to because I couldn't handle the stress.
Isn't a spouse supposed to be there for you after the surgery? We had long talks about this before the surgery, but once depression takes hold it's as if those talks never took place. For the past two+ weeks, he has been nasty, critical, and despondent. I can't eat even what I'm supposed to eat, and my stomach (what little is left of it) is in knots all the time. I have spoken with my therapist and she has been helpful, but how do people manage the post-surgery phase when they are on their own? I feel foolish thinking that I could have depended on him and need to start living my life on my own. I just don't know if I have the strength.
I don't know what to do. I lost my second job, which made it possible to pay the mortgage, he's unemployed, and I don't have the money to leave (plus I can't leave my regular full-time job).
I just need some encouragement, I think. I certainly don't get any at home.
Thanks.
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