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    Default Help... I知 so nervous and keep doubting myself with surgery scheduled in 8 days.

    Hey all, I’m new but have found this forum to calm so many fears/answer questions already that I thought why not ask for a little help!! So here goes my story... (I tried to keep it short!)

    I’m 33 yo, with a BMI 33 (have been up to 37) and I have surgery set for next week! Scary and exciting all at the same time!! II found out a little less than 2 years ago that I am diabetic. I’ve always had it in good control, but after over 2 years of trying to get pregnant we went to a specialist who doesn’t want to proceed with anything until my A1C is in the non-diabetic range and my weight is down 30+ lbs.. Needless to say I came home bawling... (that was about 6 months ago)

    it was recommended I look into the sleeve. So I did my research, saw the doctor and he said let’s do it and that he really thought it could help and maybe even resolve my diabetes!! I’ve struggled since I can remember with trying to loose weight and have tried every crazy diet/dietician recommended without any significant success. Then while trying to get pregnant I was put on insulin and packed on more weight! I always remember feeling like the bigger girl in school despite competitive sports and dieting constantly. So the plan of surgery as a tool to a better future is so exciting!

    So here’s my dilemma... I told my mom....and she freaked out on me, flat out hung up the phone out of fear!!!

    She had a lap band with a lot of complications, my dads had surgery complication recently and now she’s making me terrified (but I know she didn’t mean to! She really is an amazing, wonderful momma she’s just scared her baby is going to be hurt). However, She said “I’m too skinny to remove a perfectly good organ”, I’m cutting my body permanently when I “only have 60 lbs to loose” and that “what about in 30 years when your stomach has a severe ulcer or worse because you cut out your stomach”.... So now I’m freaking out .... I’ve cried almost every day because I’m honestly had these thoughts myself while researching/talking with the dietician/family, so hearing it from her was even harder.

    I explained to her I’m doing this because my potential pros outweigh the possible cons to me and complications are usually really low!! (My biggest being worsening of acid reflex but I’d take that over diabetes!) I want to get rid of my diabetes, move forward with starting a family, stop dieting without success and finally because when I look in the mirror, the person I see is not who I see in my mind. But after her words, I’m doubting myself like crazy and wondering will this make enough of a difference To be worth it....

    I guess what I’m saying is, I’m having this surgery but I need some words of encouragement? Similar medical conditions with success stories To help we stay positive!? Any long term success stories??

    I know I need to do this for myself but of course those fears still creep in......


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    Gastric Sleeve Member AnnieG's Avatar
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    Default Re: Help... I知 so nervous and keep doubting myself with surgery scheduled in 8 days.

    Welcome! You're in the right place for support.
    I had my surgery 3 years ago October - best decision I made, only wish I hadn't waited until 65 to do it.

    You're mom is reacting to her own fears; most surgeons don't do the banding any more, for the reasons you already know.

    I had a minor complication w bleeding after my surgery, which resulted in another look-see & a unit of blood. That said, I never even needed acetaminophen in hospital or at home.

    I've had other surgeries, and honestly this was just a "non event" except for the resulting loss, restored health, and getting my life back.

    Keep posting! And you must do this for yourself. <3
    [I]HW: 240 lbs SW: 199 lbs GW: 140 lbs

    1 MO = 167.0 2 MO = 156.4 3 MO = 148.4 4 MO = 140.6
    5 M) = 136.0 6 MO = 130.0
    1 YR = 122.0 2 YR = 140.00 2.5 YR = 139
    Happy with my weight; happy with my size; over-the-moon with my health!

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    Gastric Sleeve Member kenson's Avatar
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    Default Re: Help... I知 so nervous and keep doubting myself with surgery scheduled in 8 days.

    Welcome to the forum.
    In the end, you have to do what you feel is best for you. You will find that people will project their fears on to you when that is not how you feel. I didn't tell anyone I was having surgery until the week before. You have listed the reasons why you would like to have this surgery. Apparently, you qualify or the doctor would tell you so. Good Luck in whatever you decide to do.



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    Default Re: Help... I知 so nervous and keep doubting myself with surgery scheduled in 8 days.

    You do you.
    If you chose to back out or postpone surgery for now, please take a deep dive into some keto forums and podcasts. Resolution of diabetic and fertility issues are primary topics.
    Taking either course will seem difficult, then will get easier.
    I wish you peace with your journey.

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    Default Re: Help... I知 so nervous and keep doubting myself with surgery scheduled in 8 days.

    Thank you all! I just needed to get out my anxiety a little and the writing helped! I am having the surgery, 6 days and counting! Still nervous but confident in my decision. I’ve tried every diet for the past 10 years without success and I’m tired of putting my life on hold, it’s time for me and It’s what I need! I told my mom that Too, and she calmed down and we had a good talk. You’d think at 33, married and out of the house for many years that my moms opinion would not weigh so heavily, but since I’ve only told 4 people it truly does. Thanks all for the encouragement... here’s to working hard towards a better future, many weeks of liquids and my new journey!


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    Default Re: Help... I知 so nervous and keep doubting myself with surgery scheduled in 8 days.

    Hi Allara7, I don't have diabetes but I definitely have a weight problem that sleeve is helping me with. I had the surgery 2 months ago and it makes a difference with my appetite, I am not so hungry all the time. I had LapBand for 16 years and I had it removed, waited 3 months for my stomach to heal and then had the sleeve. I wouldn't recommend the LapBand because i vomited after each time I ate, had severe acid reflux and a dilated esophagus. Sleeve is a lot more natural way to lose weight. It is a big decision but believe me the surgery wasn't at all painful, there was just (in my case) nausea for 2 hours after surgery because of the anestesia. Doctor gave me a bottle of strong pain medication to take regularly after surgery but I haven't taken any of it. Liquid diet that we all have to go through seems harsh but it isn't because you won't be hungry at all. Do yourself a favour and have the surgery so you can go on with other things in your life rather than being slave to your appetite. Good luck!



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    Gastric Sleeve Member KiwiGal's Avatar
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    Default Re: Help... I知 so nervous and keep doubting myself with surgery scheduled in 8 days.

    All the best for your surgery.
    I'm sure that you won't regret it for a minute once you start seeing the results.

    Please let us know how you get on.



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