Has any kept surgery a secret

[MaggieGreene]

People are very judgementalented and am considering not telling anyone. Especially my job, I plan on taking a few days off.

[Harley girl]

I told the people that I work with and then only a few people outside of work, if I had to do it all over I would not have told anyone. Most have been supportive but a few of my co-workers have become very judge mental, even as far as saying I took the easy way out why didn't I just go to the gym like everyone else. Just be careful and give it a lot of thought.

[ghost_ryder]

I did not flat out tell many before surgery but I did not fully restrict data. Since surgery, I have told everyone. So happy with how things went I just cannot contain my excitement.

[Theresa2]

I do not keep it a secret. The only negative comment I heard was from my sister in laws mother, but she rarely has anything positive to say about anything. Almost everyone knows someone or is related to someone who has had the surgery.

[etsybay]

I attended an informative meeting without telling anyone. When I decided to go ahead, I told my mother. When it got closer to the surgery date & I needed to bring a support person to my appointment, I reluctantly told my sister. After a few months, I slowly started telling people when they noticed and asked how I did it.

Now I will talk about it, but I don't "advertise".

You need to do whatever's comfortable for you.

[LoriC]

There are a lot of judgmental people around me so I haven't advertised it, I have told only those I am close to or that I want to inspire to do the same. My best friend at first said I took the easy way out until she read up on the surgery and the lifestyle change that comes with it, she admitted it didn't look EASY at all. <3

[Ann2]

I had WLS over two years ago. I told only my husband and two friends (who live 1,000 miles away in opposite directions). No siblings or other close friends know.

So glad I did it that way. SO GLAD!

[Pam G]

You can always wait to tell, but once you tell, you can't take it back. Don't tell til you're really sure about it.

[Srhultberg]

I tell everyone. I'm excited I had it done. Lol. I haven't received one negative comment and talk to ALOT of people with my job. Some people are curious and ask questions, but everyone congratulates me on my decision. But, you need to do what you feel is best for you. I just suck at keeping secrets. ��

[Dawnislas]

My husband, daughter and brother were the only ones that knew prior to my surgery. I work in a high school so when I returned I told my closest friends in the office. I tell other people as they ask but I don't advertise either. Everyone has been very supportive and positive but I still feel funny about it.

[Sandra3]

At first I didn't tell many people around me besides hubby and the children. A few close friends know and they are happy for me. I see my family once a year and asked two of my cousins (they are physicians) what they think about the surgery, it was during a function. I knew I was going to do the surgery a few months later but I wanted their point of view on side effects. One didn't know much about it and said he would look into it, the other one had patients who had issues with reflux post-op and it did some damages on their teeth so he gave me advice about that (he is a dentist specialized in surgery/implants). Both were really supportive and told me it was that best decision and they would have done the same for themselves. The door was open during the conversation and my mother heard the whole thing. I just wish I had been more careful and close that door!!. She is a negative person and loves to gossip about everyone, she is always fighting with someone in the family, because she is bored in life...how sad.. When I came back from the hospital she even called me to tell me awful things....but we know who's around us...that's why I was not planning on telling her in the first place!

So if I had to do it again I would close doors and only people who matter would know.

Since the surgery and because in ten months it does show a lot now, a few friends I don't see often did ask me and I did explain. Of course since I know them for a long time and they know my health is always complicated I just didn't want them to imagine I was really sick again and not telling. One of my friend has been overweight for a long time so she did ask details about the surgery. At the end she said I was brave because even if she needs it she is too scared to do it. I tried to show her that in my case my obesity was so bad that it was worth taking the risk..but I'm not pushing my point of view on people. I only answer questions.
I'm a private person so I don't think I would discuss my experience with a stranger unless he/she is very obese and asking questions...

Do the best you can. There's no perfect plan.
Take care.

[luckygirl]

Hi
I told no one but my husband. For me,it was the best decision ever. Weight loss has been slow and no one notices that I eat less. Just dieting and exercising. This really is a journey that has to be worked. I didn't feel compelled to share.I Only took a few days off work.
I feel wonderful and I'm only half way there. I know I would have gotten nay-Sayers and I didn't want to deal with any of that,I just wanted to concentrate on the journey. I would share gladly if someone sincerely asked for information, but I didn't want discouragement.
My BMI was not that high but I had many ortho issues,high blood pressure high cholesterol My reasons for surgery were fueled by bad health, however the vanity part is wonderful.I feel so much younger.Good Luck

[laurel]

I have also not told my employer or co-workers. they think I am having my hips fixed. I'd like to just surprise everyone with the new me! I had surgery 15 days ago and already lost 20 LBS. I don't feel very different, but my husband says I look thinner, especially in the face.

[azladyrider]

I didn't hide it from anyone and still don't. I am a pretty private person to begin with and very few of my close friends know about current medical issues I am having so I didn't put it out on blast on Facebook for example beforehand and didn't after either but if I was face to face in a social situation and people noticed my weight loss I told them that I had the surgery. If they didn't like it too bad! I own my own business so bosses and coworkers weren't an issue - I had to tell my clients that I was having surgery since I would be unavailable for face to face meetings while I was out of town in Mexico having the surgery

[americangrrl]

i told my husband and my daughter.... my co workers know , but other than that, I have not told anyone else.... let me assure u...It is certainly not the easy way out... u have to b extremely conscientious of how much and what u eat.... I just didnt want to hear any negativity one way or another... whether ppl support ur decision or not... it is ur choice and urs alone... nothing and no one else should impact ur decision... just make it for the right reasons...