It's been quite a while since I've posted for reasons that I'm sure many can relate. It has been exactly 1 year and 10 months today since I had Gastric Sleeve surgery. I started out at 284 lbs and in June 2017 I had hit my lowest weight of 181. Today when I stepped on the scale I am now 200 lbs. Over the last 10 months, I've slowly started to gain weight. Why? I have every excuse under the sun. I've continued to go to my appointments at the Bariatric Center but in many cases, I've rescheduled appointments hoping that if I delayed it by a week or two or three, I would have lost the weight that I gained since the last appointment and my doctor or nutritionist wouldn't know. Well, guess what that never happened so I would go to my appointment and when they asked how I was doing I would be well, less than honest.
Before surgery, I was very careful not to have bread, pasta and minimized my alcohol intake. Just like the doctor and nutritionist advised. I watched my portion control, kept track to make sure I ate the right amount of protein. Prior to surgery this was easy because I was working towards a goal and I knew that if I didn't do what I was supposed to do there would be no surgery. I logged my food every day and with doing all the right things weight loss became easy. I lost 46 lbs before surgery and then another 59 lbs after.
With my success came lots of compliments of how good I looked, how proud everyone was of me, you know the drill. Well as I got closer to goal, the harder the weight came off and when it wasn't coming off, I became lazy. I stopped tracking my food, started to add the pasta, bread, potatoes and alcohol back to my daily intake. My portion sizes started to increase and even though I still can't eat as much as I used to, the stuff I put into my body still has lots more calories. With that came the slow creep of putting the weight back on. At first it was a few pounds and then I would go back to the protein shakes and the weight would come off. That was all great until December when my new job became very stressful and I quickly stopped paying attention. Because it was easier to blame my weight gain on the fact that I had a lot more stress in my life and using the excuse "I'm a stress eater".
The more I put on, the more I wanted to find an excuse instead of just being honest. I was being lazy but just didn't want to admit it. It stared out with being dishonest about how much I was putting back on. Instead of telling someone I had gained 15 I would say I gained 5. When meeting with the nutritionist and doctor, I wouldn't tell them the whole story. How many glasses of wine they'd ask, I'd say one or two a week when I could have that in a day. Eating bread they'd ask, no I don't eat bread. Those are just a few examples. So with a puzzled look, they'd ask what do you think you're doing differently? Lot's more dishonesty. I'd get through my appointment and move on. Basically just checking the box.
When I went to my recent appointment a couple of weeks ago, I was probably a little more honest than I have been in a long time. Something about that appointment changed me. The words the doctor spoke to me when I said to her that I couldn't go back to the size I was before her response to me was "the first step is that you keep coming to your appointments." She said that many people stop going because they are too embarrassed about their weight gain and that they are afraid that they are going to "get in trouble" for gaining, so the end result is they cancel their appointment and no longer go. All that work prior to and right after surgery all gone and they gain all their weight back and then some. Her words have stuck in my head. Those words kicked me in the butt. I asked myself why be dishonest with them, I'm only harming myself. Whether I'm honest or dishonest, they are still going to get their paycheck. They are there for me not me for them. When I got ready to leave my appointment, I decided instead of going back to the nutritionist in 6 months, I ask if I could go back in two weeks. Of course, was their response. So my next appointment is this coming Wednesday. I've decided I'm going to lay it out on the table. Complete honesty.
Since last Monday, I've gone back to my good habits of logging my meals, no pasta, no bread and no potatoes. Three healthy meals a day, make sure I get my protein. The one last thing, I really enjoy a good glass of wine so I haven't cut that out completely. I have cut back to just twice a week and when I went out to dinner, I had enough will power to have just water instead of a glass of wine. I know, no drinking 30 minutes before or after a meal. I need to work on that too. I also ordered a salad with chicken. No pasta or potatoes.
There's one last thing that I have to be honest about. When I was being very successful with losing weight, my husband was so proud. We've been married for over 28 years and he has loved me no matter my size and he would never think to say one negative thing to me. I did tell him after my surgery that if he saw me going back to my old ways to say something. Well there have been a couple of times that he has tried to nicely make a comment about something I ate or drinking before my meal and even though I asked him to say something I wasn't very happy with him when he did. Because of how I reacted, he no longer says anything even though I know he's thinking it. Like I said, he would never say anything to me that he thought would make me feel bad.
So, today October 20, 2018 I am determined to stop being lazy and start being honest. I need to own it. Just like I always told my kids, if you do something wrong, just own it. There is no one that is going to be affected by my dishonesty but me. I can't go back to 284 lbs. I've only gained 19 lbs so it's not too late to get back at it. I've also decided that I'm going to commit myself to going back to a support group to share what I've experienced. Those who are preparing for surgery need to know that weight loss surgery isn't an easy fix and it's still a lot of work. Especially when the weight loss slows and the compliments do too.
Let's hope that by keeping my appointments, keeping my food log and most importantly being honest, I will see the results that I am looking for. Thanks for listening/reading. I pray that I have the strength to be honest because in the end that's what's going to help me reach my goal.
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