Hi Everyone,
I am really struggling right now and may not be able to get the surgery because of the program's psychologist. I need some advice.
So my insurance requires a psych visit and the psychologist at the doc's office made a lasting impression on me and my husband - and not in a good way. She's pretty wacky. Condescending, weird, and just...odd. One example of many - she greeted me and my husband wearing a surgical mask - and wouldn't shake my hand. Even my husband (who is wonderful and never says anything about anyone) was like "What is up with that lady?" and both of us just had a feeling she'd be a problem. And...we were right.
So the psych lady administered psych tests at my appt and asked if I'd ever been treated for an eating disorder. Here's the thing: before deciding to get surgery, I was getting ads on FB for an eating disorder program and I called about treatment. I joined an outpatient program at night hoping it would help me lose weight. There were two other patients - a man in his 40s who was there to meet insurance reqts before surgery and a high school girl who was struggling with bulimia. The program SUCKED (think: three hours every night of a lady lecturing us like a teacher about nutrition and emotions, and all of us just staring back at her blankly) and I stopped going after two weeks. I couldn't relate to the program, honestly.
I told the psych lady about this at the appt and she wanted the records. I told her I left the program because I couldn't relate, but she insisted because she was concerned that I'd "eat through the stitches" if I couldn't control myself. I was so offended by this, I can't even tell you. I mean, I'm not a moron - I will do whatever the doctor says. I told her that and I expressed concerns that my surgery would be delayed because they need to send in paperwork to the insurance company. She still wanted the records. Fine. Signed them over to her.
So about a month later (today) I get a call from her and she says she has "conflicting data" and that I have been diagnosed with BINGE EATING DISORDER and I'll need to talk to their marketing person (?? why ??) and I'll need to go through several months of THERAPY with ~HER~. Ordinarily, I'd be like "Ok, fine, whatever" but the hospital is a long drive from where I am (1.5hrs) and it's in very heavy traffic. We've been down there already several times and I have absolutely no willingness to go through therapy just to prove to this weird lady that I won't EAT THROUGH MY SUTURES. I really kind of blew up at her because she was so condescending to me.
I'm just heartbroken because my insurance is changing in January and I have no idea if surgery is covered or what the requirements will be. It's very likely not going to cover as much, as this plan is awesome. The doc's office hasn't submitted the paperwork yet because they were waiting on this woman's report.
I was hoping for a November or December surgery. Now I'm just screwed.
Heartbroken. I'm in tears. What should I do now? Start over somewhere else? Wouldn't that guarantee a delay and then I'd have to start all over again with new insurance?
HELP! Sage advice needed. I'm freaking out and SO disappointed.
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