Starting over after a 60lb regain starts with a huge step toward accountability

[jessiejess]

I just read a post on another forum where I gave advice that I myself need to take so I'm going to do it. I have my goal weight set at 145 which at one point I surpassed. Now that I've regained 60lbs, it's time for me to reevaluate my goals. I'm a veteran, yes. But that doesn't mean I didn't make mistakes. I certainly did and I'm trying my best to learn from them. I think a good strategy is to follow my own advice about choosing a goal which is this: Set a goal that feels realistic to you. Set small goals at first as milestones but have an ultimate in your head that seems realistic and when you reach it, you can reevaluate to see if you want to go further. I told this person that this is our journey and we can make changes any time we need to. SO - I'm now at 192. Yes, I'm admitting that. I was once at 130 and am now at 192. My goal weight of 145 makes me feel shame when I see it because I made it there and beyond. Seeing that number always sabotages my efforts to start losing again because it's a sad reminder of the success I threw away. So I'm changing it. And it won't stay the same. I'm changing it to the first milestone I want to reach which is to be in the next 10lb range where I can do my own version of rounding down. That's what I've always done. I just never put it in writing. So, that means my goal will to be below 185 so I can round down to 180. Then I'll want to be 174 so I can round down to 170 as a new goal, and so on and so forth. 169 to 164 rounding down to 160. To me, these are more realistic goals because they are achievable instead of knowing I weigh 192 and seeing 145 as a goal. To me that seems impossible. So right now I'm changing my goal weight. This is a huge step toward accountability for me. It may not seem like that big of a deal but changing my goal means I am accepting the fact that I'm taking steps to start a new journey. It's never too late to start over. I've still got restriction. It may not be as easy this time because I don't have the benefit of the honeymoon period, but I do still have my sleeve. So I'm at 192 and my new goal is 184. I can do that. And I can go from 184 to 179, 179 to 174 and all the way to wherever my body wants to be. But it definitely doesn't want to be at 192. So here we go. This is a huge step for me but I refuse to see it as failure. It's going to be positive in that I have faith that I can start over no matter where I am. I can achieve what I want little by little and I've got to start somewhere. And I may go slow and make mistakes but this truly is a marathon and a lifelong struggle and journey. So let's do this!

[Dutchie]

I've read your other posts as well.
So sorry to hear you were struggeling.
I think you are a very brave woman, who is taking control over her own life once again.

No doubt in my mind you will succeed.
And in following your own path, you will do, what is best for you.
Just for you and for no one else.

I am cheering you on!
You go girl!

Please keep us posted?
I can learn so much from you!

[KiwiGal]

This sounds like a great plan. Good for you.
Go for it!!

[denzel]

Good on you for being accountable!
You certainly have made a good game plan, which has given you set mini goals on your journey back down.
And I am sure that you will go back to basics - "20, 20, 20", portion appropriate crockery, tiny cutlery, protein first followed by low-carb vegetables.

I, too, put on some weight - about 8 kg ( 17.63 lb), having gone through Cynbalta Withdawal Syndrome (was on it for Fibromyalgia and went off when I had severe gastroenteritis) and being very ill along with not able to stop eating - I was incredibly fatigued and drained.

I am back on Cymalta, and being very diligent with my eating. I have set mini goals, and am on two different other sites on an "Accountability"/ "Weigh in Wednesday" thread.
I am also gone back to basics - "20, 20, 20", portion appropriate crockery, tiny cutlery, protein first followed by low-carb vegetables. And follow a LCHF/Keto WOE (Way of Eating). So all natural, nutritious unprocessed food. I have been twice to a Dietitian specialising in LCHF for guidance and direction. It turned out the the daily protein guide set by my original bariatric Dietitian was WAY too low! 30 gm difference!

Would something like being on an "Accountability"/ "Weigh in Wednesday" thread be beneficial to you, do you think? Where you weigh yourself each week and post the results?

Wishing you all the best!

[Christie13]

We all have to do what we need to help us mentally on our journeys. And our journey is ever changing. Yes the restriction will still be there as long as you are making the right food choices. My father had bypass in 89. He gained weight over the years. This past year he was able to lose 60 lbs he had gained. He said he still had his restriction even after all these years. You can do it!! We are all here for you!

[mellowjoy]

jessiejess, you have a great plan. Small goals that when added together is what gets you to the finish line. Keep fighting you'll get there.

[Stacey03]

Brilliant Jessie and so good to see you back, I was wondering how you were going.
I know you can do this :-)

[AnnieG]

JessieJess (I have a daughter with that name, although she's tagged MessyJessie). What a wonderfully candid post; I'm only 9 months out, but the "number" thing in my head is very real -- it's NEVER the right number. So your post about making the number have more sense seems like a very effective plan.

Please keep posting! Everyone is so helpful here, and I have no doubt you'll hit your first benchmark, regardless of where its set.

[The North Sleeve]

We all go through bumps in the road along our journey. You have realized you hit a bump and you are making a change and that is very important. You seem to have a great plan and a good mindset, best of luck to you and we are all pulling for you!!!