Aloha all, I am a bariatric spouse. My husband & I both signed up together to have the surgery. We spent a year going to various classes for the program we were in. Months before I was done with program and to be assigned a surgery date it was decided that my surgery should be postponed. Anyways I know 1st hand what is required to take care of yourself for optimal health after surgery. My husband relies on my for his food mainly (except drive thru - which we all know he will be having to give up) he assigned me the task of making sure he got all his protein/water intake (no problem).
I love my husband greatly and it is just tearing my up the way he barks at me and pretty much just tries to start fights since surgery. He explodes at pretty much any comment about food. He also blows up over just about everything else, but food is a huge trigger. I realize he doesnt' have much control over his feelings/emotions right now but this is ridiculous. Doesn't seem right that you get to have the surgery you want and treat me like crap (because of it). And then of course he has never done anything wrong - I am being stupid - and his favorite "what is your problem"
Nothing like being treated like crap by the person you love and have supported through this long hard journey. Who was there to take classes with you? oh that was me. And who said they would make sure that you got the nutritional intake you need to not be sick? oh that was me. Who was here to encourage you to keep up the good work and stick with the small changes that were made along the way? oh that was me too.... wasn't no body else......
I realize he probably isn't getting as much water or protein as he needs (because he refuses to go by any meal plan - he insisted on moving to solid food stage on his 2nd week after surgery. I am having a hard time sitting by and watching him throw himself back into the black obese abyss he just crawled out of by getting surgery.
He's irritable, mean, and needing nourishment.... I can't say anything about anything or he tears my head off...... help
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