Now I have no problem eating at home, in a restaurant, a big family meal (like Thanksgiving) or at some huge catered function. I've got that down to a science.
My problem is when we're quests at a small dinner party. We have 2 couples, great friends, that we take turns hosting really fancy dinners. They guys are always trying to out-do each other with the most gourmet food ever, not to mention endless champaign, wine, brandy, after dinner drinks, etc.
I always worry about insulting the host by not eating all this food. Or not drinking over a 4 hour evening when they keep pouring. I know they have worked all week on this meal. Last night was at least 5 different (bariatric unfriendly) appetizers, a fancy salad with candied walnuts and cheese, beef Wellington, green beans wrapped with bacon, little potato puffs, and some rich chocolate desert. The host served our salads along with our plates of food, so I wasn't able to choose tiny portions of anything. When it came to desert I asked hubby to go into the kitchen and say I didn't want one, but they were all ready to be served. I ate 2 bites and left the rest at the table. I felt bad about not eating it. Hubby gets angry when I try to pass off extra food to him, as even he was stuffed.
It is embarrassing, and I feel like I am insulting my host by wasting so much food. These people are good friends and know I had weight-loss surgery.
I guess I could have gone into the kitchen and made my own plate, but we were all asked to sit at the dining room table.
What could I have done differently? I came home feeling like crap. On the plus side, I didn't gain weight, where I expected to have gained about 5 pounds!!
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