Originally Posted by
tinman
What is this site turning into? Not everyone is a newbie on here. I think that anyone who shares on here is receptive to the responses given and should feel free to share, comment, ask questions, etc.
You are correct about the newbies, but, if you'll go back a reread all of the responses, you'll find the overwhelming majority of them are from folks who haven't logged enough miles on their sleeve to give the advice they have been giving. The only way anyone should give advice is if they have a common frame of reference with the person they are giving advice to. Everything else is opinion.
In order to give someone advice on what to do with their sleeve, you first must be sleeved. Not about to be sleeved. Sleeved. Secondly, you must have gone through the exact scenario they are going through and then give first hand, anecdotal advice on what to do. Not what you've read, not what you've heard. What you've experienced.
I love the folks that come on here and give advice on what not to do. That's just as important as giving advice on what to do.
And thirdly, you must state that what you are giving is advice. Not the gospel. There should always be some kind of disclaimer stating that this is what worked for you, but, it may not work for them. Or, as my girl Ann always says, "your mileage may vary".
When I give advice, it's always, always, always grounded in a big ass dose of been there and done that. Both good and bad experiences. You won't catch me commenting on folks that want to talk about PCOS, menstrual issues, hormonal imbalances, and what to do with bat wings and sagging boobs. Why? I have no common frame of reference and all I would be doing is repeating what I've read on here or heard from the crazy ass females in my sleeve group.
No one wants to hear my advice on female issues. Just like I don't want to hear a newbie's advice on how to bust a stall....while they are in a stall......lol. Bust your stall and then come on here and tell the world how you did it.
Now...on a side note, I don't have a problem with sagging boobs and most intelligent, enlightened men won't either. Of course, I'm a boob guy. I think the more natural a woman looks, the better she looks.
Oh...and by the way....waiting out a stall is not a solution. There...been wanting to get that off of my chest too.
Wow...I just saved myself some time when I type out the five year manifesto. I'll copy and paste this part......lol.
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