I attended my second support group last night at the local hospital that my surgeon puts on once a month. (Second... and last.) I went once before surgery and wasn't too impressed. In MY mind, a support group is where people sit where you can see one another and share experiences, info, tips and stories. Maybe I'm wrong... but that's how I interpret a support group. At that first meeting, we sat in rows, facing a screen with a guest speaker talking about pilates. She teaches the class. She had a slide show of exercises going on the screen. (The speaker was the surgeon's wife). I didn't get anything out of it.
Last night I thought I would attend because at my one month post op visit, when I was checking out I was reminded there are support group meetings and a brief lecture ensued from the gal at the desk. I marked my calendar when I got home and went.
I get MORE out of this site than I did there. And I get more support here than I have at each appointment I have had since December. There were maybe 7 people who had been sleeved who attended. 2 people who were 4 and 5 years out and didn't speak at all. The rest of the sleevers were newbies, me included. Then there were about 7 people who are awaiting approval. We went around the room and gave our surgery dates, what we've lost. The surgeon and the nutritionist led the group and asked if anyone had issues, questions, comments about their recent surgery. I spoke up and said that it wasn't really an issue, but my concern is that I am still only able to comfortably take in 1/4 cup of food at a time, which I am glad I can do, then I mentioned that now that I am eating soft, cooked meats instead of puree, with more water increased during the day also, I lose 1 pound a day. What was the response to my query? "Be glad you can only eat 1/4 cup. It's not going to last. And if you think by eating more protein, it is making you lose more weight, enjoy it because it's going to stop." WTF? This coming from the surgeon? And the nutritionist sat there nodding in agreement. I have lost 77 pounds (35 since surgery in March). I was dumbfounded. Not once did I hear 'great job", "you're sticking to the plan", etc... It was completely different than what he would say BEFORE surgery. He kept insisting that if 'we' stuck to measuring everything at every meal we should be on the right track. He said that we should lose the most weight in the first year, then taper off and maintenance begins. I think I have a good head start now, but to hear him speak last night was kind of off-putting. I'm being realistic but it was one strange SUPPORT group.
The ONLY kudos and back slapping I heard the whole night, was when he complimented himself and the NUT about 'how we're the only people in town who put on these support group meetings every month. No one else does it here.' I didn't want to say anymore, but I found out a week before surgery that WE (patients) pay $500. for being in the "program". Which I am sure entails having a support group... otherwise there is NO program.
So, I wanted you all to know I get more out of this support group and the people than I do at the local one, and I am not going back. Life is too short.
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