Hi all....I've just joined this group and have so many questions. I've considered surgery for so long but have never gotten the courage to go thru with it. However, I'm to the point now I just feel I really need to do this for my health. Years ago I would have done it just to look better, but I'm not even so concerned about that as much anymore (in my 60's)..but I feel my health has deteriorated due to weight issues and I just feel like every day I'm getting closer to having the big one if I don't lose some weight soon (appr 110# overwt)...As a side note, my spouse is probably 125# overweight, so he could use the surgery as well, but would never consider it or even try to lose it any other way. That's a whole other topic! LOL
We have been married for 46 years and our life revolves around food. Obviously with those #s.. We eat out quite a lot, but I do cook as well, but not the healthiest. I'm very concerned about having the surgery and how it's going to affect our relationship. I already feel that I'm going to become very depressed and angry when we go out to eat and I sit and watch him eat whatever and I eat a 1/2 cup of food or I cook a meal at home of what he would like to eat, knowing I can't eat it.....
I've mentioned to him about having the surgery and I know he'd prefer I didn't do it just because of how different I will be eating/cooking, but he's also said if I want to do it ...go for it, although sometimes I think he's just saying that because he knows I'd never go through with it. I just feel like this is going to put such a strain on our marriage. We aren't involved in a lot and eating out seems to be our main activity we enjoy together and I feel like things are going to be so different once I have this surgery.
I'm curious to know if WLS has affected your marriage or relationship with your spouse and if so how have you handled it.
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