Negativity

[Luna354]

I'd question a surgeon that would give you surgery for only 35 pounds.

[Debra3]

Thanks Ann2- I will definitely approach cautiously. I am going to explore other avenues first, to ensure that something else is not going on with my body. Thanks again.

[tinman]

I hear you, Debra.

I assume you've studied up on possible complications and complication odds after WLS. So there's that -- which is why there are BMI standards for bariatric surgery done in the US (to balance the odds of the possible complications against the odds of achieving a better life post-op).

And although I don't know how tall you are, consider that there's a strong possibility you'll have a hard time not losing more like 60 pounds or even more (and not 35 pounds) after being sleeved. It's hard for someone who hasn't been sleeved yet to understand how that would happen. But with the great post-op reduction in ghrelin (hunger hormone) and the time it takes for the sleeve to heal (and swelling to go down) and the rapid weight loss rate of the "honeymoon phase" you could wind up fighting being underweight.

Just food for thought.

Best wishes to you!

This is why Ann is my girl. Always the other side of the story.

For the rest of you struggling to find a way to "tell", try this. Another poster posted about telling folks they went low carb with exercise and shakes.

TMI.

I told everyone that I ate less and exercised. Period. And...that's exactly what I did. What I didn't tell them at first was that I purchased the WMD of weight loss tools to help me along. If you buy a treadmill to help you exercise, then you purchased a tool. If you buy running shoes to help you exercise, you've purchased a tool. If you buy a scale to weigh and measure your food, you've purchased a tool. Getting the procedure is nothing more than buying a tool to help you lose weight.

Believe me, once you've lost the weight, your friends and acquaintances will be begging you to tell them the "real" secret. That's when you drop the mike and tell 'em.

To the OP, I agree with Ann. You might want to reach out to Katrina. She's a regular poster on here and has one hell of a time keeping her weight on. In fact, she just posted pictures of herself on the vets page and says that she has a hard time keeping weight on. I don't know if she started out with a low, low BMI, but, she sure as hell has one now. If I were you, I'd reach out to her and she if you and her have anything in common on that ground and maybe that will give you the last info you need to make an informed decision.

Peace

[griz9112]

There will always be haters in the world no matter what My husband and I dealt with the same issues when we had to use a fertility clinic to get preggers Life is too short and screw the haters. They do not walk in your shoes on a daily basis I told my immediate family and a few close friends

Good luck and enjoy the great feeling you have for each pound lost!

[mandyjdc]

I don't think people realize that WLS surgery is a TOOL, not a magic wand. You still have to deal with the eating addiction. You still have
to eat right, and eat small portions. You still have to exercise.

I could see if there was a pill you could take and you would lose weight with no exercise, eating whatever you wanted and how much you wanted.
Sure, that would be an "easy way out".

I'm lucky in that everyone (except my best friend) is happy for me.

The people who say negative things to you are either 1) Jealous 2) maybe feeling threatened by the fact that you will be bettering yourself. I think
a lot of people who look down on others are insecure themselves.

[Donald G]

I have told everyone of my friends and family and have received zero negative reactions (at least to my face) Ive received plenty of support from friends and family and would not tolerate being involved with people who throw negativity at me.