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  1. #1
    Gastric Sleeve Member
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    05/14/2014
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    Mannur
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    Default Desperately in need of help

    Hi everyone,

    I had a Sleeve in May 2014 and life was great. I had never been so happy.

    I was 25 when I had the surgery. I weighed in at 34 stone 4 lbs at my heaviest which was the day before I started the pre op milk diet. Within 12 months of surgery I hit 21 stone 4 lbs - I don't know how old I was when I last weighed that and I felt great.

    I was exercising well and even completed a 65 mile bike ride for charity.

    I started to gain a bit of weight towards late 2015 but I didn't let it concern me as I felt so good.

    I went on holiday to America in January 2016 and when I went I weighed around 24 stone, but I was incredibly fit and the weight seemed stable.

    Since my return from America I have started gaining weight. As of 3rd January 2017 I weighed 28 stone 6 lbs. I have since knuckled back down and so far I have lost 11 lbs of that and I am back into a good gym routine and eating clean food again.

    My real issue is me.

    In the past 12 months my confidence levels have dropped like a stone. My family had a Halloween party and I made excuses to avoid that. Then they had a New Year party at the family home and I found every excuse to stay upstairs which I did until everyone had gone home.

    My life consist of going to work, to the gym, then home and shut away in my bedroom. I thought for a long time that I was happy about this, but now I am starting to realise that this is wrong, however my confidence is so low I don't know how to fix it.

    I am arguing with my family almost daily.

    I am 28 now... I thought I was meant to have my own life and be happy, but I feel like everything I have done to get to where I am has been a waste of time and perhaps I should have carried on eating the way I was and accepted the consequences of extremely early mortality.

    Mt surgeon has referred me to phycology and I am waiting for the appointment, but I always seem to be able to put on a brave face and tell them everything is ok, I feel like maybe the only way I can convey my problems is in writing.


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    Gastric Sleeve Member Leslieann's Avatar
    I have had a gastric sleeve.
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    leslie
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    01/05/2017
    Surgeon
    Shillingford
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    Default Re: Desperately in need of help

    Dear DJB123`
    I am newbie, just got my surgery a week ago. You sound like you're doing pretty good keeping yourself on track and back on track. I guess the issue is you're 28 and simply adorable and you should be getting out, socializing more?
    I think your upcoming appointment with the new doctor will help and believe me they know when you're putting on a happy face. They will be able to help you "chip away" at what is really bothering you and help you feel better about yourself.
    The best thing is that you're going to this appointment!!

    You're awesome and you can do this!!! Keep us posted on how you're doing, ok?



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    Gastric Sleeve Member DesertGal's Avatar
    I have had a gastric sleeve.
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    Lori
    Surgery date
    03/24/2017
    Surgeon
    Dr. Teng
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    Default Re: Desperately in need of help

    DJB123, you have accomplished so much in your young life. It is good that you are having a psyche appointment. Be honest with him/her and they can help with your feelings. It's great to work and go to the gym, but you are young and should socialize and have a life for yourself. You did the surgery for healthy reasons and you should enjoy the fruits of your labor. You'll do good! But make sure you go to the appointment.

    Height: 5'8"
    Highest Weight: 270 BMI 40.3
    Day of Surgery Weight: 223 / Pre-Op nutrition diet: LOST 47 pounds
    1 Month Weight: 202 (-21 lbs.) TOTAL LOST: 64 pounds
    2 Month: Weight: 188 (-14 lbs.) TOTAL LOST: 78 pounds
    6 Month Weight: 169 (-2) BMI: 25.7 TOTAL LOST: 97 pounds
    "If you can't laugh at yourself, life's going to seem a whole lot longer."

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    Gastric Sleeve Member Christie13's Avatar
    I have had a gastric sleeve.
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    Christie
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    11/03/2016
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    Dr. Wright
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    Default Re: Desperately in need of help

    It sounds to me that this post is about more than weight loss. Have you considered seeing a therapist? My sister has been going for a few months and has found it extremely helpful. Good luck!



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    Gastric Sleeve Member ghost_ryder's Avatar
    I have had a gastric sleeve.
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    Greg
    Surgery date
    08/23/2016
    Surgeon
    Dr Doyle
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    Default Re: Desperately in need of help

    I think you will be able to work through many issues seeing a therapist. We as humans are social animals, we need to be around others. Please take it seriously to work through this.



    HW - 341 - June 1
    SW - 319 - 8/23 (-22)
    1mn - 286 - Sept 23 (-33) -total 55
    2mn - 274 - Oct 23 (-12) -total 67
    3mn - 263 - Nov 23 (-11) -total 78
    6mn - 238 - Feb 23(-25) - total 103
    9mn - 230 - May 23 (-8) - Total 111
    10mn - 226 - June 23 (-4) Total 115
    11mn - 226 - July 23 (0) Total 115

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    Gastric Sleeve Member TarotAces's Avatar
    I have had a gastric sleeve.
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    Odessa
    Surgery date
    01/11/2017
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    Dr. Mario Almanza
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    Default Re: Desperately in need of help

    I've been doing the same thing; since long before surgery. I am working VERY hard to get through my social avoidance issues and it's one day at a time. I was a very social person until a few years ago so it's not something I've ever dealt with before. If you want someone to vent or talk to about it, message me. We are all here for each other in every way we can be.
    HW: 297+lbs ( stopped weighing myself, it was probably 318 ish)
    Pre-op: 280 lbs (-17 lbs)

    CW: 142 lbs -Down 178 lbs from my highest actual weight!

    Week 1: 270
    M1: 257
    Week 6: 255
    M2: 252
    Week 10: 241
    M3: 237
    Week 14: 234

    GW: 145 lbs




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    Default Re: Desperately in need of help

    Never had any surgery so far. And wishing that i wont get anything like that.

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    Gastric Sleeve Member Donald G's Avatar
    I have had a gastric sleeve.
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    hmmmmm I wonder
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    01/24/2017
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    Dr Romanelli
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    Default Re: Desperately in need of help

    I started going to Therapy 1 1/2 years ago at the age of 45 it was right after the death of my sister and I discovered I had alot of issues to wor through. None were/are food related but just discovering them and talking about them has been a very large help I would strongly suggest seeking help. I have a saying now that goes " your body can not be healthy until your mind is". Good Luck to you.




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    1 month out- 262
    2 month out- 244
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    5 month out- 203
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