Been a year already?

[Brandonf150]

Hello All

It has been awhile since I've posted so I thought I would do the 1 year post.

Since surgery I have lost 95 pounds. The vast majority of that in the first 6 months. Total I am down 115 pounds from my highest weight. I have seen Onederland but I don't live there. Some carbs and slider foods have made their way into my diet but they are limited. I can eat much more than used to be able to do but I still stop at the first sign of being full.

I never have had a complication or serious issue since day 4 post op. I am back on blood pressure meds but a much lower dose. I am completely off cholesterol pills and the PC Doc told me to have all the lean red meat I want but to keep,the weight off because that is the killer.

The old aches and pains have gone away. I am not even thinking about back surgery as that pain has been gone for a few months. I have developed a new pain...my butt hurts on my tailbone. I've lost so much weight that I have no cushion anymore . So I choose softer seats and travel,with a pillow to sit on in my car for my long road trips.

My marriage is so much better I thought for sure we would divorce. So glad we have worked through the issues. Keep in mind the divorce rate is higher among bariatric patients. Typically the spouse of the patient can have a hard time adjusting to the new person that can emerge after surgery. If you don't have a strong marriage to begin with you are playing with fire. For my wife and I it finally worked out after several months of agony.

I am so grateful to have been able to do this surgery as it has given me a life that I never knew. Beaches, zip lines, wave runners, and dancing! Those are just a few of the things that I've done in the past year as the weight was coming off.

The wife, kids, and I all get to do stuff now. Dad is no longer left out due to weight. Dad is typically the biggest kid now wanting to LIVE LIFE!

[KariVSG]

Your doing great. Keep up the good work

[BAMR]

I am recently sleeved myself and I love reading the posts of people further down the road. I myself am looking forward to a zip line as an excursion on a cruise in 2017. So glad you are enjoying life. Thanks for your post.

[kiaka52]

Congrats to you my one year is coming up too I have only lost 80 but I'm not complaining after 2 failed lap bands. I'm off all my meds including my diabetic meds and high blood pressure meds I feel really good.

[luckygirl]

Brandon
YAH_HOOO!!! Many congrats for your success.So happy to hear how much your life has improved,just a few weeks out and I'm looking forward to less aches and pains too.I get the marriage issues,This is the first time in forever that I've totally concentrated on ME. Continued success you seemed to have nailed it.Thanks for the post to help encourage us newbies.

[knewme2013]

Congratulations! So happy to hear that you have been successful in your weight loss journey. It's only been 6months next week will be 7months. I have lost 53lbs and
9lbs away from goal. I plan on having a tummy tuck at the end of the year,and next week lam getting consultation.I plan to have the surgery on my surgerversity 12/15/16

[Belle2]

Thanks for checking in. I'm glad you are enjoying your life again!

[Mbenson5]

What a beautiful story! My ex and I both had the sleeve, both lost over 100 lbs, and are divorcing. Not sure what those statistics are, but losing weight helped me to have the courage to leave a loveless marriage after 27 years. He treated me SO differently before, and never had any respect for anything I said. If I had stayed heavy, I would have been stuck. Would be a great research study-I may do it myself! lol!

[luckygirl]

Melissa
I've workd with a few people who have had WLS,it was amazing to me how a coworker had allowed her boss to bully her and really take advantage of her, she found her voice as the weight came off. It was quite amazing to see her blossom. Good luck to you. I believe it was your post about match.com. I have beautiful educated neices and nephews that use dating sites exclusively due to their busy work schedules.My nephew just got engaged to a match meet up,my neice is in a relationship she met on match. They also use tinder.My son went cross country last year and had many dates he met online.That is the dating scene now.Just ask anyone younger than ourselves...LOL! So happy for you in all your accomplishments and future new beginnings.

[Pam G]

don't use Tinder! It's a hook-up site!

[Brandonf150]

Thank you Melissa. I know the weight thing is different for women then men. Men are more accepted being overweight. I have noticed people treat me different even if they knew me large.

I will say this my wife was not supportive of me early on. She called me all kinds of things. This was cheating, didn't need to have surgery, and I was being selfish. I have forgiven her as she just was scared. I was changing, a man she had been married to and loved for 14 years was changing his entire life. We had a great come to Jesus moment when I laid out what my offer of divorce would be. That was thanksgiving weekend 2015. We both realized what was going on and it was divine intervention that changed our hearts and over the next couple of months everything was different.

I have come to this conclusion about the first year. I went through many emotions good and bad. My life did change I also made a lot of good choices and stuck to the diet. As I told my wife early,on during a bitter fight, the first year weight loss is due to the surgery. If on year 2 I have kept the weight off that is all me! That is how I truly feel, the first year you can really screw up and still lose weight. You won't keep it off though.

I have stalled out at 200 lbs. Not bad from 315 lbs..I could lose a few more but I'm not gonna diet and exercise perfectly. My surgeon is good with where I am...I am also.

My wife wants some cosmetic surgery done, not sure why because she is the most beautiful HOT woman I have ever seen. But she wants it so we will do that together...I got a turkey neck that needs to go away now

[Mbenson5]

Aw, you are a sweet husband! My ex never said I was pretty, hot, zilch. He aure knew how to say others were pretty girls. Well, the guy I started dating has given me more compliments that I got the whole time I was married! That's not everything, but at least he does notice! lol!

[Mbenson5]

Melissa
I've workd with a few people who have had WLS,it was amazing to me how a coworker had allowed her boss to bully her and really take advantage of her, she found her voice as the weight came off. It was quite amazing to see her blossom. Good luck to you. I believe it was your post about match.com. I have beautiful educated neices and nephews that use dating sites exclusively due to their busy work schedules.My nephew just got engaged to a match meet up,my neice is in a relationship she met on match. They also use tinder.My son went cross country last year and had many dates he met online.That is the dating scene now.Just ask anyone younger than ourselves...LOL! So happy for you in all your accomplishments and future new beginnings.

What a great post! After Ann said she met her husband on Match.com, I didn't even think twice, because she is very smart and level-headed. I have met a great guy-I hope it works out. Hope I am not jumping too fast...

[WANAGL]

Congratulations!!!

Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

Best of luck as you continue your journey!

[Leademo]

What an inspiration thank you for your post