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    I was just wondering if any of you have used Match.com? I wonder if I am really getting interest from real people, or if it is a lost leader that they use to get you to pay their fees? Thanks!
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    I will be honest with you. I met my husband on match.com almost 12 years ago. Back then it was $25 to join. He tells everyone Im the best $25 dollars hes ever spent. lol


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    I also know someone who met their husband on Match.com. They are happily married and have 2 adorable little girls, she's a nurse and he works for a large pharmaceutical company.

    My husband of 41 years was a "wrong number"... We met in 1973 which was way before internet dating, but we said we were "trailblazers." He was a wrong number that turned out to be the "right number"



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    Met my amazing husband 20 years ago on match.com.

    His brother and current wife also met there.




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    Oh my gosh! I had no idea! After being married over 26 years, boy have things changed! You all give me hope! So happy for you all!!
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    I totally shouldn't admit this, but I actually met my husband on Craig's List...yep, the bottom of the barrel of all "dating sites". Man, I got lucky that he didn't chop me up into little bits. I responded to his ad for no other reason than I though the was hot. Apparently I'm stupid and shallow. I digress...

    We've been together 8 years, married for 4. We're a good match; he keeps me sane, and he puts up with my shit. Can't ask for more than that.

    I'd have tried Match.com, others, if I hadn't been so poor at the time. My husband was on all of them. Seeing as I was flat broke, however, I found him on CL.



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    Quote Originally Posted by tomigyrl View Post
    I totally shouldn't admit this, but I actually met my husband on Craig's List...yep, the bottom of the barrel of all "dating sites". Man, I got lucky that he didn't chop me up into little bits. I responded to his ad for no other reason than I though the was hot. Apparently I'm stupid and shallow. I digress...

    We've been together 8 years, married for 4. We're a good match; he keeps me sane, and he puts up with my shit. Can't ask for more than that.

    I'd have tried Match.com, others, if I hadn't been so poor at the time. My husband was on all of them. Seeing as I was flat broke, however, I found him on CL.
    LOL! You, too. I had no idea.



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    Quote Originally Posted by tomigyrl View Post
    I totally shouldn't admit this, but I actually met my husband on Craig's List...yep, the bottom of the barrel of all "dating sites". Man, I got lucky that he didn't chop me up into little bits. I responded to his ad for no other reason than I though the was hot. Apparently I'm stupid and shallow. I digress...

    We've been together 8 years, married for 4. We're a good match; he keeps me sane, and he puts up with my shit. Can't ask for more than that.

    I'd have tried Match.com, others, if I hadn't been so poor at the time. My husband was on all of them. Seeing as I was flat broke, however, I found him on CL.
    OMG! I just read this and it made my day!! lol! Actually I met someone and have gone out with him twice! I am laughing because we had almost the same discussion:
    Me: My kids are afraid Im going to end up in jelly jars (from online dating).
    Continue conversation...
    Him: We can date at my house-there's no one there. (I have 3 kids at home)
    Me: As long as you don't have any jelly jars! hahaha!
    A person's a person, no matter how small! Dr. Suess


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    I met my husband on yahoo singles 8 years ago. We chatted on pm, talked on the phone, then met at a restaurant for an introduction. It really wasn't accepted then and online dating just started. Now I know a lot of people who have dated and even met their mate. It's a good way to weed out the duds. Make sure you meet in a public place and don't give out too much information at first. There are a lot of creeps out there and they will definitely prey on you. The good news is that there are a lot of guys out there who are looking for a nice woman to date. You just have to sort out the weeds!


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    Melissa,

    Yes, I would recommend Match.com and similar dating sites. I met my wife on Match.com almost 14 years ago. You will see some profiles that you just shake your head at, but you will see some that make you say "why not". You will meet people with profiles that are a work of pure fiction. Just laugh and move on to the next one. I suggest having a brutally honest friend help with your profile. When I asked a friend for help with mine I got some valuable insights that helped me improve my profile.

    Good Luck!

    Robert.



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    These days, there's absolutely nothing unusual or weird or any other negative aspect to using online sites like match.com and others to meet new people to date.

    Chances are you've not dated in a long, long time. It can become a second job. Or you can just get lucky and find your new love rapidly. Most people find it's the former, not the latter. (I was one of the lucky ones -- TWENTY YEARS AGO ON MATCH.COM!)

    Seriously, I know so many people who've found their second / third spouses on match.com who are amazingly well mated.

    As I've seen online (at other WLS message boards where people get more into this topic), it really does seem to be a numbers game. You certainly won't meet anyone if you don't try hard to meet new people. This is just how people meet folks these days -- online. And then they meet for coffee. And they don't get over-invested before they meet them.

    My best advice: Try it. You'll figure it out.



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    Hey Melyssa! Hope you had some good luck in meeting someone nice. You look fantastic, BTW!



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    I never have, nor ever intend to participate in online dating. I've got several friends that do and they waste WAY too much time with various versions of Mr. Wrong. (The best was the one threatening to shoot himself on her couch and she had to call the SWAT team after getting her son out of the house). "Looking for love" has not appealed to me since I was in my 20's..... I've just been too happy being single for so long. Then, WALA, out of nowhere I ran into a client at the Fedex store and he asked me if I'd want to go out to lunch sometime and I said yes to be polite (he actually tells me I said "possibly"). I then spent the next couple weeks trying to figure out out how I was going to get out of it. But low and behold we hit it off and 5 months later are still an item. Just got back from a long weekend camping and mountain biking in the desert. He's 58 and I'm 48 and both in our first serious relationship in decades. Kind of fun feeling like a love struck teenager again, but with a little more common sense this time around.

    So no, never used match.com, but I guess the theme of my post is if it's gonna happen it will, no matter what the venue.



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    Kindle, this will shock the shit out of you, but hubby and I met on a dating site. It was blind dumb luck. I never went out with anyone else from that site, and it took 2 months before I even went out with him. Twenty plus years later we are still the luckiest people in the world.

    So many ways to get lucky ... by which I mean really lucky.

    Congrats on your relationship. Love is strangely wonderful.



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    Ann, Sounds like you definitely hit the jackpot of online dating. Thats so awesome. The crazy thing is, most long term, happy relationships I know of sprung from a "love at first sight" event. Starting with my parents. They met at choir practice, went on one date and both went home to tell their roommates they just went out with the person they were going to marry. That was 55 years ago!! Maybe that's why I've never had much luck with relationships....I've never expected anything less than the fairy tale



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