I had a friend of mine, who is a member of this board and a superstar loser email me a few days ago. She told me that this post I made a year or two ago was a tipping point for her. She told me that she copied and pasted it and that it made her sharpen her own perspective.
Perspective.
Now there's a word that isn't used on this board very often. We all have perspective but we don't all use it. What we all are guilty of from time to time is adopting some one else's perspective. That's a killer when you're sleeved. Make a plan, work the plan, own the results, and change as needed. Do that, and you'll develop your own, unique perspective. Your plan, your results.
So, I thought someone, either active or lurking, might be able to benefit from this post I made. It tickles me to death when someone tells me that one of my rants made a difference to them.
I hope this helps someone gain some perspective.
After reading this, if you need help, or want a nickel's worth of free advice, feel free to pm me. I'm always glad to help.
Here we go.
Every few month or so......a new wave of sleevers comes on here. Names I don't recognize, places I've never heard of and emotions all over the place. For all of the diversity and divergent personalities, it seems that a few ideas about what these new sleevers are going through are all common and the questions seem to follow a common theme.
Why do I still feel like cheating?
Did I do permanent damage to my sleeve when I ate a sugar cube during my "puree phase".
Will my NUT and/or surgeon still like me if I don't hit their goal?
How do I tell family and friends how I lost this weight?
OMG....I'm exactly 21 days post op and the scale stopped moving. Will it ever start moving again? Did I do something wrong?
Why is my mind playing tricks on me by making me crave sweets. I thought this was supposed to cure my cravings.....
I'm sure I could print three or four pages of notes, concerns, and musing from the newly sleeved. So, I usually print a post that addresses these and other questions about once every few months. These are my opinions and mine alone. They work for me and have worked for many on here. However, there lots and lots of folks on here who have been very successful post op and did not do it like I did. Their ways are just as relevant as mine....if not more so. If you are interested in my theories and applications, please go to my profile, click the tab that says "recent posts" and you'll find pages of the rantings of a formerly morbidly obese man who has been there, done that, and ate that.
So, for all of you who are less than two or three months post op. Let me give you nickels worth of free advice. There are no rules concerning post op sleeved life. Each of us is very individual and as such, our bodies all require differing levels of hydration, nutrition, exercise, and vitamins to operate at peak efficiency. So, why is it that you NUT and or Surgeon is hell bent on placing you on a food plan that is nothing more than a diet at it's best, and really a torture session in reality? I'll tell you why. It's because they do not know any better.
Did you have frank discussions and constructive criticism with your surgeon detailing your thoughts on his surgical technique, bed side manner and overall competency? Uh....I'm betting you didn't. Why?
Because in order to have an intelligent conversation with anyone about anything, there has to be a common frame of reference.
In other words, you both have to have a shared experience. Whether that experience comprised of opposite view points, or common practices. It's impossible to discuss surgical techniques with your surgeon because you are not a surgeon.
Well....guess what. They cannot have a conversation with you about your post op nutrition, hydration and weight loss unless they too have been through what you are going through. Now, before everyone jumps my ass about what I just typed, please take note. I am not advocating that all new sleevers should question their Surgeon regarding post op care and maintenance. I am advocating that new sleevers need to take control of their post op nutrition, hydration and exercise as quickly as possible and tailor their post op lifestyle to maximize this amazing, miraculous, and game changing procedure. A Surgeon...and especially a NUT cannot possibly know what they are talking about in regards to nutrition. Know how I know? Look at all of the very successful sleevers on here who lost weight doing it their way and not the NUT's way. I am not advocating my way. I'm advocating for your way.
So, new sleevers. Take heed.
There is no such thing as cheating with the sleeve.
Once your sleeve is about 4-5 weeks old, you absolutely cannot harm it. It won't blow up, leak out of your belly button or vaporize into thin air. You will live with it for the rest of your life.
Tell your NUT and Surgeon to kiss your formerly prodigious ass if they do anything more than thank you for your business and that's that.
You tell your family and friends you lost your weight the old fashioned way. Portion control and exercise. That's the God's Honest Gospel Truth. If pressed, tell them about the tool you purchased to help you.
Folks understand tools, they do not understand crutches.
You will stall at three weeks. Period. No stopping it and the quicker you start messing around with your calorie, protein and hydration, the sooner you will bust that stall and never stall again.
And last but not least, the sleeve is a tool. Not a cure. The sleeve will not re-wire your brain or make you magically, mentally, different. If you think it will, then you need the check up from the neck up. It's ok to crave. It's ok to feed the crave. It's ok to eat carbs every day. It is NOT ok to over eat. The sleeve is a tool to prevent over eating. Period. Nothing more.
So in conclusion...Here is good old Tinman's mantra.
You are not on a diet
Since you are not on a diet, you cannot be failing at a diet.
This is not a race. You will be sleeved for the rest of your life. Please take the time to learn how to use the sleeve effectively. No one becomes proficient with a tool the first time they use it. You won't either. But, don't ignore it. Use it.
Carbs are our friends...not our enemies
Eat as much protein as your itty, bitty, pinkie toe sized sleeve will let you. Preferable no less than 80 grams a day.
Drink no less than 64 oz of WATER, not sports drinks, not tea, not coffee, not beer, not soda, a day. Preferably over 100 oz during the summer and when you are exercising. Dehydration can cause a stall too.
And, last but not least....you must never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever over eat........EVER.
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