Please Help damned if i do and damned if i don't!!!!!!!

[GA_Girl]

While I will not offer my personal opinion on this I will say prayers for you and your family! Make whatever decision is best for YOU. God Bless You!!!!!!!

[Slippy Chips]

Have the baby. The surgery will ALWAYS be there.

Having not been able to have children, I would gladly weigh 300+ lbs if it meant I could have a child. Ive been doing great since ive had my surgery (lost 60lbs already), but i would gladly have it all undone for a baby. Especially if i mnew i could just have the surgery at a later date. I don't know you or your situation, but I really can't think of many (if any) situations where having a child would not be my priority.

[Angel1]

I agree with Dale, being that you're about 290 lbs if you're healthy and can carry the baby to term without any complications definitely have the baby and once you give birth everything is settled you can start the process all over again. We will always here on the forum for support whenever you need us. Congratulations and good luck with everything.

I don't know all about your personal situation, so it is hard to give advice on such a serious question. I also am not familiar enough with kilograms to have an understanding of how overweight you are. Are you healthy? Will you be able to carry the baby to term? There are a lot of questions to ask yourself, and to ask your doctor. Since I am 59 years old, and could not possibly be in your position, my advice may be worth less than nothing. All I can tell you is, if it were me, there is no way anything would come before having a baby. Good luck to you, and let us know what is happening with you.

[Slippy Chips]

BTW... We adopted. That's my son in the pick. He's 16 months now.

[Angel1]

This one don't have anything to do with the topic. Deelite I couldn't stop laughing about your sticker" Fat people are harder to kidnap" I have a friend who is bigger than me she used to tell me it's more likely they will kidnap me before her since I was smaller than her. She haven't see me for a few months now I'm wondering what she gonna say next time she sees me.

What Mary Ellen said.

[Dee Leshuz]

I took it off, didn't like how it sparkled, too bright, but yeah, I do love the sentiment!

[Janese58]

How old are you? Did I miss that? Im reading this from my phone and to be honest and frank I cant believe someone would ask strangers should they get an abortion or weight loss surgery. Sorry to be blunt but Im stunned really.

[RussianBlue_x2]

I need advice please help guys.....been given funding for operation, going through all appointments and have been told i can have surgery before Christmass

Are you working through an insurance company or the NHS? EIther way, I would contact whatever agency approved you, explain the situation, and request an extension until sometime after the baby is born, based on when you think you will be able. Be persistent and compromise if you have to, but don't let them off the hook! Their timeline is arbitrary and doesn't fit your situation.

Only you can decide about the baby, but really, I wouldn't make such a life-changing decision based only on a potential surgery approval date.

[jgilliam1955]

Always vote for the baby.

[GA_Girl]

How old are you? Did I miss that? Im reading this from my phone and to be honest and frank I cant believe someone would ask strangers should they get an abortion or weight loss surgery. Sorry to be blunt but Im stunned really.

See this is exactly why I regretted you posting this question. Stop JUDGING her! Evidently she's feeling helpless right now! Maybe she doesn't have anyone in her life that she can ask this question. We are here for SUPPORT! SUPPORT her. No one cares what you think about abortion. Why make her feel even MORE guilty. If you choose to give your OPINION the just state it w/o passing judgement. Geeeez! We deal with enough negativity from people we should not dole it out to each other!

[mary ellen]

You go LaTasha...It is about her and her beliefs. It is her body and this is America. Do what is right for you!!!!!!

[Charity]

I know that to you, this is a difficult decision. I've never been in your situation, so I'm not sure what advice I have. I do want to offers hugs and good thoughts, vibes, prayers, etc. your way during this time. Look for the peace in your heart that tells you that your choice is the right one for you and your family.

[grammysyd]

Oh honey, this is such a personal situation, you must determine what is right for you. You are the only one who knows that inside of yourself. I am thinking good thoughts for you that you will make the right decision for you. Think about it, ponder it, go through all the scenarios of 'what if', pray about it. We are here for you...and will be if you decide to wait to have surgery. Take care and may you receive the blessings you are looking for.

[UK Tim]

I don't feel qualified to tell you what to do, or to even cast an opinion on the issue, which is unusual for someone as opinionated as me.

Work it out with the father, look at the all the options and ask: "What do I want?"

Whatever decision you make, you will have to live with the implications.

Interestingly, there appears to be a strong gender divide here on opinions. I wonder what that tells us?

[BaltimoreJaxs]

I know that right now you are faced with a tough decision. You are wondering what road to take. Just when you think you have it all together to go down one path, you are presented with another!!

Sit down, take a deep breathe, and weigh(no pun intended) all the pros and cons. Life changing decisions are hard as hell to make, which ever one you make, you will always wonder what would have happened if you had taking the other route in life.

Its so damn scary , you want someone else to make the chose for you, which we can't do. But which ever path you take, you must be the one to decide, follow your heart. Every event happens for a reason.

I 'll say a prayer for you, to give you some strength, and some peace. And you always have a place here, surgery now or surgery later!!!

Jacki