I am almost 3 weeks until from my surgery date and trying to plan as much out as I can. I have four sons, 3 are elementary school age and my baby just turned 2 yesterday. The boy's grandparents are keeping them while I am in the hospital and my husband will be here for the 6 days post op, but then he will have to go out of town for work for 2 weeks. I originally tried to have my sister come and stay with me for another week or so after my husband leaves but her work schedule is proving difficult to navigate around. My surgeon says I shouldn't lift my toddler for a month (he weighs around 30 lbs...the baby, not my surgeon. My older boys are a huge help with the baby...they can easily lift him in and out of his crib, in his car seat, etc.. I am pretty sure I could manage alone with only them here to help. Of course, during school hours might be harder to handle.. I'm trying to consider how to get him in and out of the suburban to pick them up from school if I can't lift him, but I might can get help from friends in picking up the boys...not sure yet.
Anyway, I would just like to hear from others that have recovered from surgery with a toddler and how it went. I know everyone's experience is different but I would like to get some idea of what to expect. Should I even attempt it without help? I know it would be better to play it safe and have someone here to help but realistically it's not working out so well. Everyone has to work and has their own responsibilities. I'm usually a pretty capable person and have recovered from 4 c- sections, 3 of those with young kids at home. I know it's bad but I usually ended up lifting my kids before I was supposed to and just kind of did what I had to do. I'm not asking anyone for permission to ignore my doctor's advice but I am kind of wondering if this isn't just one of those things where the doctor is playing it safe and covering his bases. I may be mistaken but I thought he said I could lift up to 25 lbs (I'm going to ask him this again at preop) and so of course, I'm just kind of like, is 5 more lbs really that bad? I would definitely take it fairly easy and only lift him if it's absolutely necessary.
So, looooong story short, considering your own experiences would you think a mom of a 2 year old would be capable of handling things on her own about a week post-op?
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