A different view on the redundancy of questions............

**Little Verbena** · 08-06-2014 08:39 PM

Originally Posted by HGfromOmaha

Well, with that "subtle" approach, I will take note and try to post more but can't commit until after the kids are all back in school. I prepare networks for 2 schools and have been swamped for weeks! But I check in regularly, even if I don't post. Message received. Loud and clear! LOL

I was never good at that whole subtle thing. I think that is the Texan in me. But glad you got the message. And, glad you are busy and I am betting now you have the energy to keep up with all that busy stuff.

**greenmomma** · 08-06-2014 10:02 PM

Well, we all have our reasons for being here. I do believe that, coming up on a year post op, I have done, and continue to do, my fair share of answering questions and providing support. Having said that, I also believe that the reason there are so very few of the oldies on here, is that we, at some point, reach our personal tolerance for questions about the three week stall. Apparently, I've reached mine. Time to take a break and find somewhere else to get what I need. Good luck to you all. Peace out.

Momma

Edited to add: I didn't "demand" anything, it was simply an observation.

**Peg** · 08-06-2014 10:12 PM

Well said my friend well said.

**tinman** · 08-07-2014 07:46 AM

The only thing that really frustrates me about new posters are the ones that want to argue with me when I give an opinion. I don't just jump on a thread and start typing random bits of wisdom and drivel. My posts are always about what ever the particular thread is about. Having said that, if a newly sleeved person asks for advice, then they should just be quiet and read. If you don't like the advice, don't take it. But for the love of all that good, pure, and skinny...don't argue with a person who is at their goal weight, has been for quite some time, and has years of experience being sleeved....especially if you asked for their opinion or advice. You can disagree all you want, just don't argue.

I remember when I first came here. I was just as doubtful as everyone else. Probably more because I am such a skeptic about everything. But, I learned a lot and I really don't mind posting the same things over and over. Validation is important to the newly sleeved. Answering their questions, no matter how basic they are, only lets them know that they are on the right track. Lots of security there.

**Little Verbena** · 08-07-2014 08:59 AM

Originally Posted by greenmomma

Well, we all have our reasons for being here. I do believe that, coming up on a year post op, I have done, and continue to do, my fair share of answering questions and providing support. Having said that, I also believe that the reason there are so very few of the oldies on here, is that we, at some point, reach our personal tolerance for questions about the three week stall. Apparently, I've reached mine. Time to take a break and find somewhere else to get what I need. Good luck to you all. Peace out.

Momma

Edited to add: I didn't "demand" anything, it was simply an observation.

Well, GM, I don't think this is the right answer for the rest of us but I will respect it if it is the right answer for you at this time. It is my hope that instead, you stick around and continue to post your fun and witty observations.

**kenson** · 08-07-2014 09:39 PM

I feel that asking questions is what this site is for. Its why I still stick around. For one thing, its accountability for me, but for another, its to pay back all of the times that I asked questions when I was pre-sleeve. Yes, questions become redundant, but for every new person that joins, its a brand new question for them. I know I asked questions that some old times felt was redundant, but guess what? now I'm an old timer, and if I feel like answering a question, I do, if I don't feel like answering, I don't, if a lot of time has gone by and someone's post has still not been answered, then I'll try to add my two cents.

**HGfromOmaha** · 08-08-2014 10:55 AM

My approach has been to stop answering the stall questions. It seems to work for me and I'm not offending anyone by not answering. I don't believe that whoever is asking the question isn't sincere.....I just don't have time to keep answering the same question over and over again. I think some people quickly realize, after they've been here awhile, that their initial fears were illogical and unjustified. So by ignoring those threads, I am not engaging in something that will frustrate me. There are plenty of other newer (and older) members who will be there to answer those posts and so it's not a burden for me.

**tinman** · 08-08-2014 11:42 AM

Originally Posted by HGfromOmaha

My approach has been to stop answering the stall questions. It seems to work for me and I'm not offending anyone by not answering. I don't believe that whoever is asking the question isn't sincere.....I just don't have time to keep answering the same question over and over again. I think some people quickly realize, after they've been here awhile, that their initial fears were illogical and unjustified. So by ignoring those threads, I am not engaging in something that will frustrate me. There are plenty of other newer (and older) members who will be there to answer those posts and so it's not a burden for me.

I sort of feel the same way, but, I also feel the need to chime in. I'll try to direct them to my profile page where they can take the time to read my posts dealing with the exact issues they have. That way, I've reached out personally, but, I didn't have to retype the same info for the 1,000th time....lol.

The vast, vast, vast majority of those who want answers are very genuine and cooperative. Many pm me and we spend time together that way. Every so often though, I run into a problem child and that interaction makes me wonder why I even try. I had one the other day actually pm me to tell me to go eff myself. This person was not a fan of my rather blunt and to the point style.

If I can figure out how to do what this person suggested, I might never leave my house....lol

**denise.jordan39** · 08-08-2014 11:53 AM

I'm just not that impressed by the "search" box. I've used it. I just now searched the word "stall". It brought every post (including this one) that has the word "stall" in it. I think if they confined the search to titles only, it would be more user friendly. Just my opinion. Having said that, I do post less often even at 5 months. I used to read every day. When I found something that intrigued me, I read or commented. If not, just moved on. Yes, some of the " I haven't lost weight in ....days" drive me a little crazy, but as a newbie, I had read them so many times, I didn't sweat it when my stall came, I was expecting it. Anyway, this is a place to connect, inspire and BE INSPIRED by like minded people. I appreciate every single one of you because you've all been or are going to the same place I am.

**StacyD** · 08-08-2014 03:46 PM

Originally Posted by tinman

I sort of feel the same way, but, I also feel the need to chime in. I'll try to direct them to my profile page where they can take the time to read my posts dealing with the exact issues they have. That way, I've reached out personally, but, I didn't have to retype the same info for the 1,000th time....lol.

The vast, vast, vast majority of those who want answers are very genuine and cooperative. Many pm me and we spend time together that way. Every so often though, I run into a problem child and that interaction makes me wonder why I even try. I had one the other day actually pm me to tell me to go eff myself. This person was not a fan of my rather blunt and to the point style.

If I can figure out how to do what this person suggested, I might never leave my house....lol

I dunno Tin I find your blunt and to the point style rather charming lol and if I add an accent to it - it's even more charming lol

**Kathysangels** · 08-08-2014 04:24 PM

Originally Posted by tinman

The vast, vast, vast majority of those who want answers are very genuine and cooperative. Many pm me and we spend time together that way. Every so often though, I run into a problem child and that interaction makes me wonder why I even try. l

Well, I for one am one of the people you have helped - and would be really upset if you effed yourself!!! You still take the time to answer a question and you were very kind to me. You may be blunt but many of us like that style. Just keep being yourself and answering us the way that you do - I am always happy to see your name come up when you are answering a question.

Kathy