Just over a week to go.....

[emski87]

Just over a week to go until surgery and instead of feeling excited, I'm feel really down! I am doing well on the prw op diet, but I am craving just about every unhealthy food option there is!

Also, a friend of mine who has lost 12 stone in the past two years keeps making comments about surgery being a "quick fix" etc she doesn't say it directly at me, but she posts on Facebook about it and how we should all just work harder to lose weight. I get really frustrated as this isn't a quick fix, it's not like I go to bed one night and then wake up the next a size 10! She knows I am having this surgery and this is what frustrates me even more.

Maybe I could go to the gym every day of my life for 4-5 hours across the day and lose weight that way. However, I have been dealing with my weight my entire adult life and have had enough. My reason for doing this isn't to be thin, as I comfortable as I am, not happy, but am content in myself. The bigger picture for me is to improve my fertility, as I have PCOS which is a nightmare and causes no end of problems including weight gain!

I guess I'm just turning to you guys for support? Or to vent? I don't know.....just not feeling too good today x

[shagalious]

Don't worry about what anybody else says- you are doing this for yourself and not them. Also, after the surgery your cravings will go away, and you will be amazed by the transformation. Hang in there.

[CookieHead]

I agree it is not a "quick fix". It sounds like your friend thinks you are cheating or being lazy.
She doesn't understand that different people need different paths, and that you have made your choice.

I would guess that she will continue to do that and while you become happy with your success, she may downplay your hard work, thinking the surgery did the work for you.

When people sign up for Jenny Craig, couldn't people say the same thing?
They could say, why are you paying some company to send you food?
Can't you make your own food choices?

When people start a fitness program, some people work out on their own,
while others benefit from hiring a personal trainer or participate in group fitness classes.
The person that did it "alone" may feel superior, but really it's all about preferences and what works for you.

I recommend next time you see her post in your newsfeed, just hit the left area so you can choose to Unfollow
her posts (or do this from her page).

[Ann2]

Can I just say that if you're not feeling excited for yourself today about your imminent surgery date, then I am thrilled for you!

I have another (I'm guessing) two months to wait before my own surgery date, and I cannot wait! Having said that, I'm obviously not on my pre-surgical liquid diet, so you're going through something I haven't encountered yet. Nonetheless, I have a hunch you will be an amazing success.

As regards your "friend," you DO realize (don't you?) that she's not a friend of yours. She's declared her true colors. She's a saboteur, a betrayer, a creep.

I'd say the first ugly weight you should lose is hers. I'd also suggest that you unfriend her. You don't need those kind of bad vibes in your life.

Anyway, onward and downward. We're cheering loudly for you over here.

Ann2

[Claudia B]

Congratulations, Emma on your decision to make weightloss a lifestyle change for you.

This is your journey - no hers - and she cannot be such a good friend if she is attempting to sabotage you with her comments. The decision to have this surgery is one of the biggest decisions of your life. Everything will change - for the better.

With those cravings, remember - you can have all those foods back - you will just learn to love them in smaller doses.

We will be waiting on the other side, cheering you on.

Now put that happy face back on!!

PS I believe she is jealous because you are beautiful now, even without the weighloss.

[Deejaycee76]

Anyone who doesn't support you or tries talking you into not doing what's best for you should be kept out of your new life. You don't need shitty attitude or ignorance to hinder your exciting new journey. People love to think we are taking the easy way out. Instead, we are receiving help for something we really need.
My surgeon said to me "I'm giving you the boat. You've got to get in and row it".
And he's right. He gave me a great tool that I have worked hard using. It doesn't get rid of any desire to eat badly. It limits how much we can consume..period.
Best of luck to you. Kick friend to the curb.

[Mich-D]

Several years ago I got down to 259 lbs and was on my up the belt ranks in a variance of Taekwondo. I used to think anyone electing WLS was taking the easy way out. Then a work- related injury that sidelined my workouts and ultimately required surgery that contributed to me reverting back into old habits. With each passing month, I found it harder to get back on track. Last year, my PCP retired and my new PCP informed me that I was in stage 3 of chronic kidney disease - something my previous PCP failed to tell me. With the thoughts of death on a daily basis, combined with severe obstructed sleep apnea, and the unanimous recommendations of four different specialists, I accepted that I needed help. I returned looking into WLS and although I am far from my goals, I can honestly say; a)it is not a quick fix, b)if used properly can be a jump start to a new lifestyle, c)it is not for everyone, d)requires a high degree of focus.

If someone is addicted to meth, would people say that person took the easy way by seeking rehab?

For me with a BMI of 58.5 this became a medical necessity. I no longer care if people frown at me for doing it the easy way. After all I am not doing this transformation for them.

[emski87]

Thank you for all your replies x all such lovely people

I do need to try and phase her out of my life for the time being but we have been friends for 11 years or so now, so it's not as easy as just ignoring her. I will get over it I suppose, just having a down day.

Feeling positive in that I've lost 11lbs in the past week, which, when I haven't really lost any weight for a long time is huge for me! This time next week I will be tucked up in a hospital bed preparing for the following morning and having my op!!! Eeeeek!!!

[corie]

I also have PCOS and I completely understand the struggle. Your friend is the complete opposite of what you need in this journey. I was just sleeved Thursday and let me tell ya, it is tough. It's a complete lifestyle change that is far from easy. I want to eat like I used to, but I can't. If I want to get pregnant in the future and live a healthy life this is what I had to do, so I did it. I had to give up those habits and exchange them for new ones that are good for me. Yeah I'm gonna miss pigging out on food after a late night with friends, but I won't miss shopping in the plus size section and the hate I had for myself. For those people who think it's a "quick fix" or "cheating" I dare them to try to do a two-week liquid diet and then have the majority of a major organ removed. Sounds so easy to me (sarcastic there). I hope this helps, because just typing this helped me (I've had a rough day wanting some real food)! If you ever want to talk PCOS or anything at all feel free to message me.

[SDmom2two]

I just got home from the surgery this afternoon. Anyone who says this is the "easy" way needs to be punched. The surgery is NOT easy. Its surgery for gods sake, this isnt like scraping your knee and putting a band aid on it. Its a really good experience though as to me builds character. Each time I walked past surgery I thought about the fact that I was taking steps toward recovery.

[SDmom2two]

sorry "post" not "past" surgery

[fri38cy]

So far I have been lucky with the people who I have told about my surgery. Not everyone at work knows that I did this when I go back in the fall there will be questions. But I did this for me and me only. I've spent 23 years on almost every program out there, I would spend the summer in the gym and go back to school heavier than when I left. People when I go back may tell me that but I will defend "My Choice" to the ground. If it becomes a big issue I can stay away from those people. You don't want to be in my corner then I don't need you. You need people who support you not people who want to tear you down. Good luck on your journey.

[mdeerberg]

It isn't a "Quick Fix" or the "easy was out"....if anything it is harder. Mentally and physically it IS HARDER. It doesn't matter what she says or thinks. It's all about you now sister. It matters what you say and think. I felt down--maybe some kind or mourning or something, but it doesn't compare how good I feel now.