Originally Posted by
niamh
I'm really angry and upset after reading this thread. I can't understand the way some people have behaved on this thread.
Yes - she was at a healthy weight. The reason she was at a healthy weight was because she had the band in. Removing the band makes it highly likely she will put weight on again - just like we all have done a gazillion times after losing weight and then being unable to keep up the restriction ourselves. She wanted the sleeve instead of the band in order to give her permanent restriction (like the rest of us), without having the port sticking out. It makes perfect sense - and if it didn't make sense to you then I'd question your fundamental understanding of weight loss surgery. Suggesting that she should wait and 'see how it goes' is just bloody ridiculous, particularly after she's paid for the cosmetic procedures!
Saying that you smell BS to someone who might be telling the truth about a traumatic experience is horrible behaviour. Even if you thought there was only a 10 percent chance she was telling the truth, just think about the impact on her if it is truth. So if you think someone is full of it, say nothing. If someone is full of BS, trust that other people on the forum can work that out too - we don't need self-appointed bullsh!t vigilantes running around making judgements.
This uninformed and judgemental attacking of people who share negative experiences on the site is so shameful. This is not the first thread that's triggered bullying behaviour. It's one of the reasons I rarely come on here any more, even though I would like to offer support and insights as someone further out from surgery who is lucky enough to still be doing well.
We can all lose weight and look better on the outside through surgery, but clearly that doesn't necessarily coincide with also being better on the inside. There is some serious self-reflection to be done by some people on here about what it means to be supportive.
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