Dad/cancer

[nancy3]

at four pm I got the call that my dad has stomach cancer, the dr. wants to see him Friday for more test to see how advance it is. idk wat to do my mom and dad have always said they don't want to know if they ever get cancer, they say they will suffer more knowing then not knowing, so Idk wat to do. my mom passes away two yrs ago and he still tlks and misses her a lot.

Friday I go with my dad for the other test. I guess ill let the dr. tell him, but im afraid my dad is not strong enough, he has gone down hill since my mom passed away two yrs ago.

idk what to do, I don't want to go into surgery having him sick, I don't want to miss a minute without seeing him. the dr. said that they have to find out how far out he is and maybe surgery maybe they cant do anything, im just waiting for my insurance to be approved and then the surgery date.

he wants me to be healthy and I want to do this so he can see me skinny b4 things happens.

[slags68]

I am so sorry you are going thru this. Hoping for good news for your dad. You have to make the right decision for you and your family.

I also went thru some challenging times right before my surgery. I was planned for surgery in mid-December. We went on vacation Thanksgiving week, while gone my dad fell down and was hospitalized. When we arrived back home he was declining quickly and he decided he didn't want additional treatment. They moved him to Palliative Care. At that time, I had to make the decision to postpone my surgery because I wanted to be in the right place mentally to be prepared for surgery and didn't want to worry or burden my family. I am glad I postponed because he passed away a few days later. Very difficult and so unexpected. My surgery was rescheduled for about a month later and things are going well.

Prayers for you and your father.

[nancy3]

thank you. so im able to postpone the date if they call me b4 we have all the information about how my dad is/going to be or what has to be done. I just want to spend all the time I can with him.

[slags68]

My doctor was VERY willing to accommodate my need to reschedule. The whole office staff was very compassionate.

Completely agree with you about spending as much time as you can with him!

[teddtlove]

I am so sorry. You can get through this. Yes you will be able to reschedule. Get the approval from the insurance and then the Dr should be able to accomodate you with a date that works for you.

[nancy3]

tomorrow he has a cat scan done and they will tell me more about the stomach cancer and what can or can not be done. the waiting is the worse.

[slags68]

Praying for you both. Keep us updated as you can.

[finallythin]

So sorry for your challenges and prayers for a speedy intervention/recovery. Slags68 also so sorry for your loss. Hugs & prayers!

[Wrightone111]

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. Two weeks before my surgery my dad went into the hospital but seemed to be doing well but I called the doctors office to discuss with them the possibility of canceling and they were very nice about it. Since he was still doing ok the weekend before my surgery, I went through with it.

Sadly he passed away 9 days later, but in a way I was happy I went through with surgery as planned because I was on the road to better health for myself and my faith tells me that he was ultimately in a better place after health issues of his own.

I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[nancy3]

dad had his surgery he is doing good. have lost lots of weigh he is only 105 now but we hope he gain it back. I see him every other day, everyday was getting to be to much, I hate that he is in the nursing home but he need 24/7 care.

I just posted on gofundme for me dad, the info is For Future Funeral Arrangements. by Nancy Cordero - GoFundMe hopefully I can get help for his future funeral. I hate to have to think of things like this but its life and I have two, I also take care of my homeless nephew I have done all I can for him but he don't change so its up to me to, to bury him when his time comes he has no one just me, my mom asked me to help them both out, my mom passed away three yrs on the 21st.

[nancy3]

Thank you Debbie H. and Gianni M. for your donation. Blessings

[nancy3]

Update: Dad is doing better on his new diet. he is on stage five so that means he can eat meats, veggie, fruits. he said it feels it get stuck going down, he has to eat slow.