Have any of you noticed a change in your sex life since getting sleeved? Don't be shy...You are among friends
Have any of you noticed a change in your sex life since getting sleeved? Don't be shy...You are among friends
Ok...I'll go first. Sex is AMAZING! I have always been a sexual woman, but love all the new positions I can now try. Also...my big stomach is not in the way anymore. I have heard of some people losing their sexual desire, but not me! I think it has increased!!!
haha..now this is MY kind of topic!
I am also a very sexual person. I am hoping that it will only increase as my fat goes away and my confidence reappears and I am not trying to hide under the covers or wearing shirts during. Clothes have a way of getting IN the way...bahahaha
Thanks for the laugh, Gloria!
well, my sex life has gone down because my partner doesn't want me anymore and frankly I didn't want it anymore because I hate the way I look........so I am expecting post op sex to improve....but I'll have to find a new man..........which won't be hard!! And he knows it! I mentioned in another blog that we just split because of my weight and loss of desire and he was going to see how things went and if I got my weight under control and got my self esteem up, he'd consider another try.....now, mind you, we have been together for 13 yrs and he told me that he has never been in love with me....lol.........and I want him back why???? I don't think so. Looking forward to my future.
Duthgal, sounds like you are lucky to have gotten out of that relationship. What a loser! You will do great and then you can laugh in his face when
he's ready to give it another try.
Now...about the sex. It is unbelievable. My husband and I were just discussing earlier tonight how amazing the sex has become for both of us. The changes in my body makes a big difference but he really feels it has a lot to do with my new found self confidence. He said he just can't believe how "happy" I am all the time. He's right. I am happy and it has improved every part of my life including my relationship with my husband of 17 years. I hope the surgery does wonders for all of you.
My weight always bothered me, but never seemed to slow him down. but I have certainly noticed how we are able to get closer. . . to . . .searching for a word here. . .
the goal!
and it is so wonderful to have that gut out of the way, I always felt like a beached whale during.
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In regards to your husband no longer wanting you...........screw him..........you go girl..........start fresh with yourself....if he has that kind of attitude he aint worth it. I am going on my second divorce now.....remarried 7 years ago after 13 years of being a single mom to a handicapped ( autistic) daughter and a son. Long story short....I turned 50 this year, he was screwing around on the internet and dating sites, and an alcholic.......so I kicked him out. Got my sleve a week ago, first post -op appointment tomorrow. Not sure where my sex life will go from here, but he couldn't get it up anyways ! LOL I'm going to work on me and if love finds its way in......then it will be meant to be. Good luck to you
I've only lost 30 lbs but I have noticed we are having sex more. My sex drive has always been higher than his but he's keeping up with me now! I dont know if he is more attracted to me or what? I can't wait to see what happens after 100 lbs! He is the type of guy that loves me just the way i am but i think my confidence excites him.
Thanks for all the honest replies. Sex is my favorite topic! Its very easy to discuss it on this site where everyone is a friend, but yet I don't know any of you!! LOL @Dutchgal....I can totally relate to your story. My ex-husband of 18 years HATED my weight and constantly let me know. We had a wonderful sex life though and even though he work out of town 3-4 days a week, we still messed around 7-8 times a week. He always said, "keep me happy in bed and everything will be great!" I knew he was a cheater, but turned a blind eye. He emotionally abused me with comments like "No one will ever want you....You are lucky I'm with you...I was embarrassed to be seen with you tonight...." I believed him...I was convinced that I had to stay with him. Eventually we both gained weight and after a few months he started another affair and left. He said the sex wasn't good anymore and wanted out! It was the best thing that ever happened to me!!! Its been 2 years since my divorce. I had the sleeve in Dec. and met a wonderful man who adores me, sings my praises, loves my kids, cuts my grass, cooks for us and showers me with love and affection daily. I am one happy lady AND the sex is amazing! I finally found my sexual equal! He is also "pleasing" me in ways my ex never would! (wink, wink) I love trying all the new positions, new places and being more flexible in bed... Dutchgal....Take a good hard look at your man. Know that he is not respecting you. He should love you for YOU, not how you look. I finally know true love and hope you will too. You deserve a partner who will love and adore you....and please you too!!! Best of luck!
I have noticed no difference I wanted it all the time before the surgery and I still do now lol. Just been together for so long Im still lucky to get it once a week anyway. :-( Maybe when I lose some more weight my wife will want it more if not then maybe after she has the sleeve done next year she will change. Hopefully I dont need any blue or pink pills by then cause I dont know if you can crush those lol.
Buddy...every lady is different. I have some female pals who never want it and then have a few like me who could do it 3-4 times a day. Her weight might affect her sexual desire. She may not feel desirable. Maybe you need to get her in the mood. Buy her some sexy lingerie...break out the toys, oils, candles, mood music... These are all things I rarely did when I was married, but have fun with now. After many years of marriage, couples can get into a rut...same night, same position, same routine....You need to kick it up a notch! Work the bed, the floor, sofa, swimming pool (as I did tonight) and let loose! Not sure if any of this helped or just made you horny! LOL Good luck!!
\o/ Let me just thank God right now ... LOL.
First off, don't let this collar fool you ... I'm quite the freak ... my wife on the other hand, is SO insecure about her body - our sex life has taken quite the hit. She's going to be sleeved in about 4 months time, so I've got to make sure to get my Yoga stretches in .... cause if this raises her confidence, I'd better be sure I'm ready.
I know I'm looking forward to 'skinny sex' and not having to find a place to rest my gut ... (like on her behind ..... LMAO).
Now that I've thoroughly made my face red, I'll leave you all with that rather horrible image...
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