Sex and the Sleeve

[cindylutz]

I hadn't lost any weight for about a week either but i lost 3 lbs since yesterday! *dances* You've done so well though. wow i can't wait to say i've lost 100 lbs you are my inspiration!

[sleeve-me]

i love what you had to say pam about you working on you - that is so beautiful that you are feeling good about yourself and that YOU are the most important person in your world again - big hug to you insiring words

[Jersey John]

Okay I'm blushing.......NOT!

4 years of dating sex everyday....marriage and mental illness set in and sex is non-existent. In fact, when we finally were alone in the limo after our wedding reception, she ripped into a tirade about how life as I knew it was over and I lived to make her happy from that point forward. I didn't even have sex on my honeymoon, it has been pretty much for reproductive purposes only....You can say one BIG reason I ate was sexual frustration because I too am a VERY sexual person. And while there were certainly opportunities, I remained faithful to my wedding vows.

Soooo, we have agreed to seperation and divorce but are dealing with custody issues only. She as a great job, she's a driven narcissist sociopath who can charm anyone when she wanted to, but I don't want money from her (even though I paid for her college and master's degrees). I just want my girls and to finally unleash my libido...lol

I can only imagine how incredible sex will be....unfortunately imagining is all I got for a few more months, and I wish I could STOP imagining it so much...;P

[sleeve-me]

Tracy, Losing weight does boost your self esteem. Buying smaller sizes and pretty undergarments always adds to your confidence. For the first time in my life, I walked into Victoria's Secret today! I was hoping something would finally fit from there! To my surprise, I found a new sexy push up bra!!! Just knowing you have something sexy against your body, will instantly make you feel better about yourself. I didn't feel sexy during my first 12 years of marriage. I wore oversized clothes and tennis shoes. I had short hair and seldom wore makeup. I was not happy with me. I asked for a divorce, but after his pleading I stayed. Something in me snapped....I changed....I let my hair grow, got mani/pedis, always wore make up, and changed my style of clothes. I discovered what kind of clothes flattered my 286 pound frame. I felt sexy!! It all comes from within. I felt good about ME and felt desirable. I am not sure if any of this will help you, but know that we are all in your corner.

<3 Glo

wow gloria that is so coool to hear - see one reason i always hated getting on the scale before is bc it was a huge shock seeing those numbers. i never thought of myself as a plus size woman . i really never had trouble meeting men and having relationships either sexual or others. i think its becasue i never let go of the the thought that i am sexy inside and funny and inteligent and that brought some confidence in me that shined thru. getting on the scale at the doctors offic though really shook me up it was a huge shock to the way i felt about myself. i would look at the number and realize ohh wow i am plus size - even though in my mind without that number i never felt like it. I would get very very emotional and depressed after a visit to the doctor. it was like a shock to me. the facts were i am a 200 plus woman with a 140 lb women inside thinking and running the show. i hate scales bc it was a baromerter for years that really made me feel insecure when otherwise i was pretty confident. i dont know if that makes sense. but i know i want to always feel that good confidence on insde out and not base it on numbers on scale. now its hard bc the numbers are going down (yes good thing) but i want to remember i am more than a number and i am a beautiful expression of God no matter the scale. Blessings to all my friends here - you guys help so much -

[Jersey John]

Oh and thank GOD someone touched on the Protein angle....The thread started this evening about "alternate sources of protein" was killing me all night....

;P

[sleeve-me]

Hi so my dr sd no sex for 30 days after surgery im wondering if it actually will b that long me and the hubby def will struggle w that long were r hornballs also and want it everyday if not more i am hoping as i lose the weight it will only get better we r both overweight and my surgery is monday and he is convinced hes gonna apply also i hope it can only go up from here but 30 days is a long time foreplay doesnt count as no sex right?

first off a lot can be said about forplay depending on how long you have been married a week of that might be good. that being said - masturbation is a form of sex and we did that a week out of surgury wise and had sex yesterday at 10 days still with stitches in. i think if you get experimental with the positions its not an issue. think from behind with your stomach protected. now i am not sure if i am ready for missionary position for a while - sounds painful with incisions still. your doctor might have other concerns for you so you might want to talk it thru. remember some people think you need to take 6 weeks off for the surgery too. that for me turned into a day and a half. happy experimenting !!!!!

[buddyd11]

Shoot Gloey I wish I was up to 3 or 4 times a week lol. John dont get discouraged bro, as long as there is the internet you just have to keep remembering the saying "nobody loves me like me" lol......

[Ronnie]

woo hoo... you go girl... rock his world!!! and yours

[Ronnie]

Dana, love the "beached whale during". Tell me about it!!! hahahahaha

[Puppylovemommy]

I actually could care less before and now after it's the same!! Oh well..............guess I'm afraid of getting preggers again. We had a change of life baby in 2005.....................love her to death, but too old for that to happen again at 45 and 53 years old!!!

[gloeygirl66]

.... and to finally unleash my libido...lol

I can only imagine how incredible sex will be....unfortunately imagining is all I got for a few more months, and I wish I could STOP imagining it so much...;P

John...wishing you tons of luck and lots and lots of great sex!! Divorce sucks. Be strong, do what's best for your girls and enjoy all the benefits of a single man.

[gloeygirl66]

the facts were i am a 200 plus woman with a 140 lb women inside thinking and running the show. i hate scales bc it was a baromerter for years that really made me feel insecure when otherwise i was pretty confident. i dont know if that makes sense. but i know i want to always feel that good confidence on insde out and not base it on numbers on scale. now its hard bc the numbers are going down (yes good thing) but i want to remember i am more than a number and i am a beautiful expression of God no matter the scale. -

Sleeve-me, I get what you're saying, but its the opposite with me. I've lost 100 pounds and still have a 286 lb woman running the show! I still feel like the same fatty patty. I DO feel great...I feel sexy, but I am still lacking some confidence (not in the bedroom though...whew!) I love your positive attitude! Thanks!!

Cindy....CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Keep going baby! Your dream is just around the corner.

<3 Gloey

[mommyducky]

I know this is an old post but I just stumbled upon it and had to comment! I haven't had sex in like... 4 months! My husband and I separated in Aug. and I was just sleeved two weeks ago. I expect that when I finally get back out there, it will be amazing!!! I've always been very active before. My husband is a big guy and we still had great sex. Too bad we now live in opposite sides of the world; I would call him up for a booty call just to see what it's like after the sleeve. hehe. Let's hope that I don't have to wait too much longer. Luckily, I have my toys and my porn so I'm getting by. But still, after reading all these comments, I am so ready to get some! I'm way too young to go without for so long!

[Grace]

I hear you, girl, but from past experience. My first husband (married at barely 17, I was pregnant) turned out to be gay after about 4 yrs when he admitted it to himself and me (we are still friends). I went most of my 20s without, until I could manage on my own with the two kids. Then I made up for it in spades in my 30s. I went out one night a week to my lovers' (yes, two, one of each gender) house and got what I needed hot and heavy for about 5-6 hrs then went home happy as a clam for the next week. Soon you'll be ready to find a playmate for you!

[buddyd11]

This has to be the most popular thread ever..LMBO