I had a very bad evening in a group that was supposed to be a 'support' group. (on Facebook) I've been a member of the group for about 3 months...had sleeve surgery a lil over 2 months ago. Anyways, up to this point, everyone has been very friendly and supportive, encouraging and inspiring. But tonight, I posted a rant because I was feeling frustrated at the typical stereotypes when dealing with obese people. Like how the media presents us as all being over-eaters who gorge ourselves on an enormous amount of junk food. I don't do this and I know other ppl who don't do this either. I don't consider myself a food addict but when I voiced that opinion in a comment I was basically attacked by a few different ppl who just didn't believe me. I was called a liar and told that I was in denial. I was ridiculed and even a bit mocked. I have NEVER been treated this way before and was crumbled to tears. When I tried to defend myself...to explain myself, I was attacked even more. When I tried to apologize for even saying anything to begin with, I was again attacked. I didn't know how to handle this and now I'm just left wondering if I'm wrong. If we are obese, does that automatically mean that we are addicted to food? I don't think so. I don't obsess over food.....I don't overeat....I don't hide food or any of those things. If anything, I am the opposite...I don't eat enough...which is part of my problem. I have sent my body into starvation mode to the point of an almost non-existent metabolism. This is part of why I gained so much weight. I also have PCOS with insulin resistance and sleep apnea which have both added to that. Then, I've lived a sedentary lifestyle as a data entry operator and then disabled with mobility issues. I know that I have so many different issues that have led to the weight gain, but I don't blame all of it on medical issues. (which I was also accused of in the post as I tried to defend and explain myself) Now I'm just feeling a bit crushed and I've lost my trust/comfort in the group. I don't feel like I could be open anymore. Tho many ppl have been supportive of me and sided with me, there are many others who have sided with the other girl. (the main one who said most of the negative things) I feel like it got way out of hand and was just childish. While I don't mind if others disagree with me, I do mind the way they portray their opinions.....and the way they spoke to me and others who sided with me on the issue. I guess my main question is....if we are obese does that mean we are also food addicts? And, should I stay in the group and only converse with those who are supportive (there are over 400 ppl in the group and hard to know when something like this might happen again. Also the ones that were being so rude are some of the main contributors to the group) or do I just leave the group? Sorry for the long post......I'm just really hurt right now....
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