I have no one on board with me

[scared]

My sister is as big as me but scares me about something going wrong,I should know better than to listen to her since she has a anxiety disorder. My boyfriend is super skinny and he thinks(both of them) think I just do it on my own. Honestly I have never been able to stick to any diet,that is true. And that's why they think I will fail if I don't die.I am tired of being fat,having headaches and just recently had to get on blood pressure meds.I look on here and see all the positive results.I told them that and they were like dahhh If you die your not going to be on here.I want to do this I dont know what to do about them scaring me. I know they care about me but damn I want to get healthy.

[Msvetrn]

What's with the "if you die"? What makes them think you will die? If you were going to have your appendix out or your gallbladder out (which has the same risks), would they try to talk you out of it?

[Kelleyntx]

I'm having my surgery the 8th and I'm soooo scared! I understand they way they feel!

[juniper]

I am sorry you do not have the support you need. I was more afraid of dying from diabetes, heart attack or stroke. I work in a hospital and i see this every day. My mother had her legs cut off due to diabetes, she lost kidney function to diabetes. I think that i could not live with that. I would rather have surgery and loose this nasty killing fat and live.

[PunaGirl]

I've been researching this surgery a lot and this stuck with me "once a person becomes morbidly obese, it is increasingly difficult to achieve and maintain significant weight loss. It is estimated that as few as 2% of morbidly obese people who embark on a diet & exercise program lose weight and keep it off. With the sleeve surgery, one's chances of success is significantly higher than 2%." 2%! That to me is scary & if surgery will help me get where I want to be, which is healthy & pain free, then I'm all for it. Surgery isn't the easy way out, it's still going to be a lot of hard work to get where you want. I'm sorry you don't have support at home but you can find plenty of it here. Only you know what's right for you. Good luck!

[florida 60 girl]

SCared, you will be just fine. It is not bad at all. Just don't eat till 30 mins after you eat and eat protein first then vegestables and stop when you are full and you will be just fine.

[scared]

Thanks I appreciate it. I am going to support classes beore surgery. I think the possibility of staples leaking is kinda scary, but isnt that until it heals. I mean, after a couple of months of healing that risk is gone ...right.

[thalie2006]

its ur life and ur health. Only u know whats best for u. Dont let anyone discourage u. Pray to God that everything will be fine and it will be.
i had the surgery. i am miserable right now with alot of gas and not keeping food down but iknow every day will get better. i am 160 pounds overweight. and i too failed at diets. i had to do something. i got encouragement from people around me but my mom was feeling like i would not lose again because i had done the lapband before. u can do this. tell urself this. and ur health will improve. i dont know how overweight u are but i know if its important to u to lose than i am sure u can do it. i wish u the best

[Beachtammy]

Scared you are not alone. There are people on here to help you along your way. Make sure you do your homework on you doctor and what to expect. Make the decision on what you want. Welcome to the forum and good luck on your journey!

[GA400]

Like Natty said;
Your body
Your health
Your choice
Lots and lots of evidence out there about the safety of this procedure and the fixes and remedies it can do to your health if you are suffering from health issues related to excess weight.
For many of us, this procedure is what we have turned to after diet after diet, exercise plan after exercise plan, miracle pill or gadget after the other. This procedure is drastic, but it works. Period.
Good luck and make a choice you can be at peace with.

Rich

[mskitti]

well it's all been said! just know that we are all here to help and you can pm anyone if you have questions. i am at a healthy weight now and no more diabetes. no more tablets etc, i couldn't be more thrilled with how i am today. you can do this. take a deep breath and be kind to yourself. make the choice to live instead of eeking out an existance. maybe your sister will feel encouraged too. GL

[LBurtie]

YOU ARE NOT ALONE. While we cant physically be with you we are all here available at all hours. Ive learned so much in the short time ive been on here. I feel empowered and mentally prepared to follow through with my decision. You have an enormous group of cheerleaders. You will also find people you can relate to and who understand you. Moral support from our loved ones means a lot to us but we have to make this decision for OUR BODIES. You deserve to be healthy and happy.