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**Maia0628** · 09-03-2012 11:47 PM

Pre & Post sleevers, do you feel you were or ever have been discriminated against because of your size???

**Grace** · 09-04-2012 06:14 AM

Are you doing a survey? A scientific study? or are you just looking for folks who may have had the same experience you had for some support? Sorry but with no back story it's hard to tell what you need help with.

I don't think there are many of us who have NOT been discriminated against due to size and women more so than men (sorry guys, but it's true).
There are now companies who don't hire over certain bmi's.
I owned a restaurant when I was younger, in my 20s. In my 40s I needed extra money to raise my kids and went for a waitressing job. I weighed about 240 at the time. I was flat out told I was too large to be out front because I would make people not want to eat but I could go out back and cook.
There is a perception that fat = lazy and stupid. Moreover, in different parts of the country there appears to be different tolerances for what is considered fat. I think here in the northeast as well as in the southeast it's a bit more acceptable to be overweight vs the standards in say California but I may be generalizing. Anyway, to answer the question, yes. I have.

**Maia0628** · 09-04-2012 07:17 AM

No survey or particular area I need help in. Thank you though, I ask a different question every week just to see others experiences and also a good way to get to know others on the site

**scgal21** · 09-04-2012 09:39 AM

I don't know any obese person (friends) that hasn't been discriminated against in some way.

**CuirousGeorge** · 09-04-2012 09:46 AM

Honestly I believe that my size was holding me back. I believe I was setting myself up to be discriminated against. My attitude was less than ideal and my self-esteem sort of ....well, "off" I am sure that these interior struggles were visible to the world as a whole. Not all large women have these issues, I speak only for myself! Do I believe that society as a whole discriminates against large/obese people. Hell yes. About 20 years ago, society started putting the pressure on smokers and the culture changed. Now society has started putting the pressure on the obese. The discrimination felt in the past is going to be magnified, in my opinion.

**DavidNM** · 09-04-2012 10:35 AM

Of couse we've all been discriminated against - it's a proven sociological fact that overweight people don't do as well in job interviews, the dating scene and life in general when dealing with non-overweight people. We've been programmed as a culture to believe that skinny is beautiful - just look at any photoshopped fashion magazine. Rarely is there an overweight person on a sitcom who isn't the butt of jokes, etc. Most normally sized people think that we're overweight because of our own fault - gluttony, etc. But - just look at all of the high carb, high fat, high cholesterol fast food places that permeate the street corners of America and the most available advertising media. Just look at all of the crap food that's sold in grocery stores (Hamburger Helper, Cheesy Mac, and on and on and on).