I hope I can write this post without coming across as a complete jackass.
I was divorced last year, and have been slowly putting my life back together. I'm active in church activities, and there is one woman there that basically runs all the church social functions. She's very attractive, single, and, well, I like her. Let's call her "Jan".
People at church knew I was getting sleeved, and support was overwhelmingly positive...until I overheard her at a church function telling someone that she was glad Bob was having the surgery, because quite frankly Bob was too fat to ****. Yes, she actually used that word.
Well, I've put up with a lot of good-natured...and not-so-good-natured comments about my gross tonnage over the years, and I've gotten very good at smiling and making jokes about my weight.
For some reason, though, that comment really hurt.
Nine weeks post-op, I attended a church social function last night. I had both new clothes and a new attitude. I felt good about myself. Jan was there and I cheerfully ignored her (basically said hi, chatted for 20 seconds, and moved on).
This morning at work, I get a call from an unfamiliar number. It's Jan. That's a first.
Jan just wanted to tell me how much she enjoyed seeing me, however briefly, last night. Gosh you sure look great now, Bob. We talked about a couple of mutual friends for two minutes and then she asked if I had any plans for this weekend, she was going to have a cookout at her place.
Had this been two months ago, I would have jumped at this opportunity in a heartbeat.
Instead, I told her I had previous plans, but I appreciate the offer, and hey, you have a nice day now, y'hear?
I have had the smuggest smile on my face ever since then.
Has anyone else experienced a 180-degree turnaround in someone's opinion when they see the "new you"?
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