I’m 5 months post surgery, and I’ve thrown myself out into the dating scene. I’ve gone out on a few dates with two different men over the past few months (at separate times).Because I saw both men a few times, going out/dates included going out to dinner at some point. It’s very obvious that I don’t eat much. I can only eat about 2-3 bites of meat, comfortably.I’m especially cautious on dates because I don’t want to accidentally overeat and be in pain/have gas. Both men had asked if I didn’t like the food, was I not hungry, etc.
With each of these men, I thought they were someone I’d like to continue seeing so I figured I should honest and tell them I’d had surgery.
I never made a big deal about it, just stated I had surgery so I can’t eat too much and I just leave it at that.
Well, I think it’s no coincidence that after revealing that fact, never heard from either of these guys again even though we had a great time.
I have a date Thursday with another man. I tried to steer the date away from food and suggested we go to a local park to walk around but there’s a restaurant he really wants to go to that I earlier had expressed interest in. So he insists on taking me to dinner. Should I just dance around the fact I don’t eat much , ie - had a big lunch so I’m not too hungry, or just say that I try not to eat much, make excuses for why I’m not eating much for awhile and leave mention of surgery until much later?
I just didn’t think this was a big deal, but apparently it is :(